I just recently moved to San Francisco in December of 08' to start a job for my friend who was opening a club/lounge/event center/restaurant. I have been friends with this man for about three years. He is in his mid life crisis or has been for a while not really sure very hard to figure out. He is a gay man that likes younger guy's which I find not disturbing or even gross because as a just turned 22 year old male, I am into older guys for many reasons. This man has made passes at me from time to time and noticed when he gets drunk he gets upset that I don't feel the same way about him as he does for me. I have made it clear that I wanted to just be friends from the start and he even agreed when I brought up my concern about how I like being friends and don't want anything more or less. After working for this man for about a couple months at his club and restaurant he promoted me to be his personal assistant. I have been wanting that job for a while because of the benefits of learning the buisness world and go to school, and be able to have on my resume that I was a personal assistant to a CEO of a major company and able to handle a full school work load. After only working for this man for about two weeks I got pulled over for a DUI (still pending). The company van was taken to a tow yard and I spent the night in jail. When I was released I let this man know what happened and I was let go shortly after. As being respectful and taking responsibility to my major fuck up, I payed for the car to get out of towing and left. I did not hear anything from this man for about a couple weeks aftering being fired. It hurt because this man I looked up to like a father figure, looked out for him and his best interest. I dont feel betrayed because he had every right to fire me. I knew this man would not contact me unless it was beneficial to him, when he is lonely, or when a boy breaks his heart or he gets bored with one. This has happened multiple times and I keep dealing with it until now. The other night this man was drunk out of his mind and sends me a text telling me he loves me and what not. I just reply that I think its fucked up how he only contacts me when he is lonely. He said I was in the wrong and after I let him say what he needed to say, I told him that I do not want to be friends with him anymore because his true colors have shown yet again, and I am old enough not to get sucked into his bullshit. I have not spoken to him since. I have a new job at my lawyers office. I work as a office assistant, but here is my proble. This man is also gay, good looking and older. I am not attracted to him in anyway but this man has made it clear he is into me. The other night he wrote me a text asking me why I am not interested in him and he is a fool to think I would be. I have no idea why this keeps happening to me. I haven't done anything to either men to make them feel like I was leading them on or intereted. I am not sure what to do. I love my job and am a sercure person where I can work around the b/s. I just dont know if my boss is the same way. I am worried that he might get upset enough to fire me. I have been looking for another job while still working here because i would rather be "safe" than "sorry". I have done my best to make it clear to my boss that I want to work here and I enjoy it, but I am not sure if that is just puting him in a bad situation having me around. I am not sure what to do. Any and all advice will be helpful. Thanks.