Let's see, where to start.... I'm 25 and she's 23. I'm a college grad and she has about two more years. I've read over many stories in this forum, and it seems like you can get some fairly solid advice here. I've dated this girl for about a year before we broke up the first time. She's definitely the sweetest girl I've ever met and isn't too crazy. We enjoyed going to the same types of bars, same types of movies, same type of music (really important to me for some reason), and same type of clothes. For the first 6 months or so of the relationship, we were about 1.5 hours apart. Once I graduated college, I moved to the same town and we continued dating about 8 months before we broke up. She basically told me that she loved me and got really upset when I just couldn't tell her back, so I ended up breaking up with her, which broke her heart into. We ended up "seeing" each other for about two more months before I told her that we had to move on, which broke her heart again. Several months later, we got back together. This time it lasted about 4 months before I had to move overseas, where I am now. I had to make a decision before I left, and again decided that, since (I thought) I didn't love her, it would be best so split so I wouldn't waste any more time. Once I got overseas, I started having second thoughts and am now thinking about possibly getting BACK together when I go home for Christmas. (I'll be over here until late next year.) I might have just got lonely, but I think I have convinced myself that we should be together, partly because she is so sweet and loving, and partly because I don't want to end up dating/marrying a girl that has been with 5+ guys. I'm a conservative I guess. The thing that confuses me is the whole "love" thing. I guess I've never really been in "love" before, and am quite confused by it. Both times I broke up with her, it was after a long weekend away where we were in environments where other girls were showing lots of skin. When I got home, I guess I just decided that I could do better. Am I too shallow? I know there will always be other girls that are prettier, but she is probably better looking than me. The only times that she would occasionally go a little crazy is when drinking. She would get really upset after having sex and cry her eyes out because she felt that I would never love her like she loved me. The other thing that kind of bothers me is that she isn't as witty-funny as I am. I have a really dry sense of humor and only certain types of people get me. The types of people that do get me think I'm the funniest dude that they know. She thinks I'm funny, but I rarely find herself able to make me laugh me in the same way that I make others laugh. However, sometimes I feel that she's not supposed to be there for my entertainment and I am being too selfish. (geez..this is getting really long..) C/N: Really sweet girl and I broke up for the second time. I am confused if I love her or not and if she might be the one for me. We get along great, enjoy the same things, but she doesn't make me laugh as much as I'd like her too. I wonder if I'm being too selfish and asking too much of her. Ball is in my court as to whether get back together or not-I have full control whether I like it or not. I may or may not provide pics depending on if I see users from my area.