Alright normally I'm hanging out in the Freaky Shiat forum, but I figured I could bring this to the table in this forum. Wifey and I have been having some problems, and last night it kind of hit me kind of hard. We had a son about 5 months ago, and since then well our sex life has not been the same.. Mainly because of me, Not that I have not wanted to but in fear that things can happen again. THis month I was actually looking at getting a Vasectomy <sp>. We've tried birth control, meaning condoms, but the problem is they don't fit well on me, the last time we had one, well it ended up coming off and getting lost if you know what I mean, that alone was scary enough, I mean if those things get too lost you have to have surgery and well thats just bad news.. So, our next trial is Spermacide which goes in her, which we haven't tried yet. Mainly because you have to wait like 10 mins before it goes effective etc. At this pooint I am ready to explode, last night we were messing around, and she was like Go in the bathroom and finish yourself, I said no I can't just do that.. Number one it makes her feel like shit, and number 2, you just don't do that shit on command I guess bottom line, is what do I do, I am nervous about having another child. The pill or patch are out of the question, because its lik $40 a month, and we don't have ti right now with a child. Plus we are behind on medical bills as it is. She is depressed to no end and not sleeping well, and I know all this stuff leads together with me, because if she isn't shown affection it boils right? Alright, I'm at work so Im sure Ill check this again this evening at some point.