I have a very strong feeling that I'm not going to like what I hear, but whatever, fuck it. About two months ago me and this girl, let's call her Farrah, started talking a bunch. Within a week we were either hanging out or talking on aim for long periods of time every day, we had an enormous amount in common and an obvious connection, started dating like a month ago. Right before we started officially dating she literally asked me what I was waiting for, and acted extremely happy during the first week of the relationship. About a week after we started dating she started to act less and less enthused, it was obvious something was wrong but I wasn't really sure what... less signs of affection, less playing around, eventually less eye contact. I sensed a breakup, and sure enough the day after I started strongly suspecting a breakup she called me to let me know she needed 'a break.' I was obviously upset over this and she came over to my place on her own volition to make sure that I knew that it wasn't my fault, it wasn't anything that I had or hadn't done, she just couldn't deal with a relationship and needed some time to think. Day after that we hung out, then ended up having sex, two days after that she says she wants 'to keep dating, but not technically be in a relationship.' When I asked what that meant, she said it was just like we were together, but she didn't want to technically be in a relationship, because it makes her crazy or whatever. Presently it's back to the way it was before she started acting upset, everything seems fine, although I'm really not sure what to make of the situation. Obviously there's more to the story than that, but essentially what I've concluded is one of two things is going on. I know she has significant trust problems due to past boyfriends (A good portion of them were complete pieces of shit, one was abusive, one told her he had lung cancer to try and get her to stay with him, etc.). It is possible that the concept of being in a relationship just fucks with her head and she wants to be with me without going through the mindfuck of being related to her past relationships. The other possibility in my head is that she doesn't really want to be with me, per-se, but she doesn't want to be single, and I'm essentially 'Mr. Right Now' until someone else comes along, I'm better than being single but not good enough to fully commit to. Either are possible, but I have to say that she's probably said more complimentary things about me than everyone else in my life combined for the past few years, and for the happy periods she seems extremely happy with the situation. She's said, quite literally, that I'm everything she ever looked for in a guy, and that I was 'perfect,' she just has issues to work out. Anyway, I've over-analyzed this to death and I can't really conclude anything, I'm hoping some of you vag women have some perspective on the situation, don't sugar coat it, just tell me what you think is going on.