ok, a little back story. a couple years ago i was in the most serious relationship of my life. i was planning to spend the rest of my life with this guy. he made me want things i'd never wanted before, marriage, kids, etc. we were pretty young, both 22. i've always been afraid of commitment, and kind of emotionally unavailable (for lack of a better term). i thought i made it very clear that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him... apparently not. anyway, he left me for someone else. when we were first apart, i tried to still be his friend. anything to still be close to him. his new girlfriend didn't like that so we stopped talking. i convinced myself that he was better off. that she could give him what he wanted, and he would be much happier without me... long story short, i was wrong. he was misserable there. (they lived in a different town together) and now he's back. and if that wasn't strange enough, he is back in my life. he showed up at my work, and tried to rekindle things. he said things like... leaving me was the worst mistake he's ever made, he never should have left, he wants to marry me, blah blah blah. so my initial reaction was cynical, he just wanted security after a bad experience... but now i'm just confused as all hell. any ideas?