My boyfriend is depressed and suicidal. (I know, just like so many others) I think he may be bi-polar as well. Over the summer he had a great job and then was even going to school to become a chemical engineer...it became too much for him to handle so he came back home. Since he's been home, he won't do anything with his life...he tells me that I talk down to him and treat him like garbage. All I want to do is help. I love him SO much and he just can't see that. He also says that all I want is immediate changes and that I can't the little things changing. We both know that he needs help, but he also needs the motivation to seek that help. I don't have any in me left to give (I'm still in high school and taking college class just to graduate). He always tells me that he doesn't want to add any stress to my life, but continues, day after day to do so. He also recently told me that for the first time, I made him want to kill himself. I know I complain a lot and am not always the happiest/best person to be around, but I want to get something out of life. I told him last night to call me when he wants to help himself and actually do something about it, not just talk about it. He agreed. This morning, he sent me the following messages: I know you are at school but ive been up all night thinking. And i have come to the conclusion that i will not accept us being on a "break". So with that i need to say a few things. First being that since 2 am i have taken 12 asprin, you are thinking now that i broke my promise. However i think that since you are on a break we are no longer together i dont need to keep it. Secondly since you are on a break I can not handle it, so I have decided that by 8:53am tomorrow if you do not call you officialy left me. That is exactly 24 hours from when i finished that sentence. Lastly i am calling to get help today and i will not be calling you, since you are on a break. I guess this all comes down to one thing, the ultimatum. That being if you want to be with me and stop all this fighting once and for all. This also means you would have to stop degrading me to the point you make me feel worthless because i can not please you and bitching at me because i can not control what mood i am in. I came up with this laying in bed, so call me if you love me and dont call me again if you dont its that simple. This is on you now and only you can continue us or end us if you want.With this relationship I have not only put in hours and days of trying to talk out our problems, but i also have put in thousands of dollars for both of our enjoyment. That is all i can say. Good Bye, I love you and I know you will make the best decision for yourself.