This will be our first Christmas as husband and wife, and I was really hoping it would be something special. Over the years, I've had some shitty christmases. In 2002, My Mother's mother Died on Dec 3rd, and her husband died on Dec 24. 3 Years ago My last boss's dad died on Dec 5th. The year before I was born, my Dad's mother died on Dec 24. So growing up, christmas was a somber occasion. Especially with a headcase sister who liked to fuck things up. 3 weeks ago, my dad died. http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=4020552 My mom is devastated. They were married 50 years in August. She's having trouble coping with the extra time she has, and how quiet the house is. She is never one to be full of christmas spirit. But this year is so sad. She doesn't think she'll put up a tree or decorate, or anything. My wife told me that she won't go there for xmas supper if there's no tree -- it won't be fair to the kids. That kind of hurt. Christmas is mostly for the kids, but there's extenuating circumstances this year. Grief. But I don't know what to do about my mother. I'm very close, and my dad and I were really tight. I don't like the thought of mom waking up to an emoty house on Christmas morning. I'm an emotional basket case these past 2-3 weeks.