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  1. dumbaznboy

    dumbaznboy New Member

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    should my gf's sexual history bother me? it came up in convo last night and within 2 years she's had double digit partners....she was kind of emabrrased to tell me, but it came out in the end.

    i duno how to "deal" with it so to speak. i mean i know it shouldnt bother me, but it kind of does a little.
     
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    Beat me to it.
     
  3. Jackie Treehorn

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    I remember when I cared about this stuff. Pointless. Like the above post, if it really bothers you, move on.
     
  4. NCS

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    yeah cut it out. im past my mid 20's and any really quality girl my age will most def. be in the double digits
     
  5. otherlank

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    If a number can bother you, don't ask next time.
     
  6. Chip Chipperson

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    Just remember, every time you fuck her in the ass it's like reducing one off her real count. Good luck bro.
     
  7. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    As long as both of you are clean and the sex is still great, why worry?
     
  8. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Yes, it bothers me. Maybe it's just cuz I'm insecure. It bothers me if it's an LTR. If I'm just fucking some chick I wouldn't really care too much.

    But don't be a hypocrite. If you have been with a ton of chicks then you can't fault your gf for being with a ton of guys.

    It probably bothers you cuz you like this girl a lot but you're "just another number" to her. You don't feel special, and this issue is compounded if she IS a low number for you. Or it might bother you because it is indicative of loose personal values. No one wants a gf who will sleep with anyone just randomly. If she had double digits over two years, they were not serious relationships.
     
  9. Chip Chipperson

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    worst. argument. evar.

    boys != girls
     
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    ??? lol did you change your point in the middle?
     
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    ah, got it. I was actually saying that it's not hypocrical to be a guy and have had sex with a bunch of girls, while preferring a girl who hasn't had sex with a lot of guys. Ironically enogh, for the same reason you just stated
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    :werd: If you can't hold yourself to certain standards then don't expect her to.
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    There aren't many decent looking fun guys with low #s. There are plenty of slutty chicks out there so most guys can laid plenty of times if they want to.
     
  14. Chip Chipperson

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    boys != girls
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Wow, what brilliant logic :hsugh:
     
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    dumbaznboy New Member

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    ah, sorry, didnt realize that this was a common subject here (dont post much in this sub forum)

    but yea thanks i guess for your inputs.

    it bothered me a little last nite, but since ive thought about it somemore today, ive come to realize that its not that it bothers me, its more the fact that i guess im jealous that shes much move expeirienced than i am. (was a virgin until I met her). the thing that got me was the frequency of one night stands she went through...oh well, shes mine now. and sex is great cuz shes willing to let me do anything. :naughty:
     
  17. HouseLing

    HouseLing When masturbations lost its fun you'r fucking lazy

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    but he is a real man, he does whatever he wants and dosnt have to justify himself to anybody!
     
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    Oh yeah, that is totally 100% true! Yay real men!
     
  19. Chip Chipperson

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    When a girl has sex with a guy, it is because the girl sees the guy as higher value.

    Therefore, when a girl has had sex with a lot of guys, she has perceived a lot of guys as being higher value than she is. I.e. she is a low value girl.

    However, if a GUY has sex with a lot of girls, that means a lot of girls saw HIM as higher value. That means he is a high value guy.

    boys != girls.
     
  20. TayTay08

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    ...sure....but it's 2007. We can fuck as many people as we want. If I know a guy has had many sexual partners, I don't think he is a high value guy. I don't neccessarily think he is a slut, I just think he is a very sexual being.I wouldn't touch him, but I don't judge him for it, and I think girls should not be judged either. Just because they like teh sex does not mean that they are easy, or have low self asteem, or are whores and sluts or whatever.

    Sure, there are some with self esteem issues sure. And some are just skanky hos that do it for attention.

    But they don't really count.
     
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    I'm not talking about value as in someone you want a relationship. I'm talking about value in a social/sexual hierarchy, cool kids vs. not cool kids sense.


    And I have no idea how the fact that it's 2007 is at all relevant to what I said although I applaud your knowledge
     
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    oh I see. hahaha sorry.

    haha thank you I feel quite proud of the fact that I am smart enough to know what year it is. Thankyou. : )
     
  23. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    I think there is a big difference between having an issue with the past of our partners and finding their past unacceptable. I think if you expected a different story than the one she gave it is only fair that you be a little taken back by the information she has given you.

    I don't think it should automaticlly be a deal breaker but I do think that you need to both discuss it as adults without name calling or resorting to degrading the other person.

    I had an 'issue' with my partners past. We worked through it and I slowly got through it. I will never be 100% comfortable with it but I am fully aware that it is about me and not him.
     
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    HouseLing When masturbations lost its fun you'r fucking lazy

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    you are indeed smart my little mini me :hug:
     
  25. Falconer

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    Not wanting someone with what you consider loose sexual values is no different than not wanting someone who used to be a coke addict or anything else. It's a personal criteria. A person's past actions are a good judge of their fundamental personality values. I personally do not want a gf/wife who has been with a ton of guys because of what that says about her values concerning sex. It's not about the number of times she's had sex. It's about how easily she jumps into it. If she only has sex with LTRs, that paints a completely different picture than if she's had a ton of hookups.

    At the same time, if a girl didn't want to be with me because she thought I had been with "too many girls," I would understand. I'm not a hypocrite about it.

    IBmoreflamingbecause"girlsaresexualcreaturestoo"

    ...to which I will reply "good, sexual girls are awesome. However girls with loose sexual morals are not awesome GFs, IMO, so to each their own."
     
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