Discussion in 'On Topic' started by Achmiel, Nov 27, 2006.
Having the same "get the digits, but they don't call back" problem.
Tip, tricks, advice?
Are you sure they are the correct digits?
And you verify this how? You said they weren't calling back...
When they're name, for example, is Jen, and it says "Hi, this is Jen" on their voice mail.....
you ever think maybe it's an attitude or personality that would ask a question about "pre-qualifying chicks" that keeps them from returning a call?
That would be good enough.
So, you call girls, leave messages, and they don't call back. What does this tell you? They aren't interested in you. Instead of looking for tricks or tips, why not work on improving yourself so that these women are actually interested in you?
What kind of messages are you leaving? If they are of the "just calling to say hi" variety, it's no wonder they aren't calling back.
Don't call "just to talk". Call with a purpose (to inform her of a destination at which you spend in-person time with her) and require a response. State where you want to go and when, and ask her to call you back and let you know if she can make it.
Don't state where you met. Assume that you made a good enough impression when you met her that she remembers who you are - by all rights she should if she gave you her number; if she doesn't, she should be embarrassed. Keep the message short and to the point: wishy-washy messages = clingy/needy/desperate guys, and women can smell that a mile off. Following up with another call a day or two before the expected date is optional if you don't hear from her, but if she didn't respond to your first call the odds are that she's not mature enough for you to waste your time with. Mature people return phone calls, even if it's to decline, and you have standards. Got it?
Thank you - that makes good sense. I usally call and say (this is both IF they answer or if I have to leave a VM) "hey, this is Sam from XXXX on XXXX night. Wanted to call and say hi, but also see if you wanted to get together in the next couple days. My number is XXX-XXX-XXXX, bye."
I guess I'm not to the point, but more feeling them out. I'll be on point next time.