so there were four of us in this clique: a couple, the guy's cousin (female), and myself. it was just the three of them before i came in. i always had a thing for the guy's girl, but i knew enough to respect things and stay out of that mess. 6 months into knowing them though the girl (guy's gf) and i have been becoming closer, and would sometimes be in situations i wouldn't want to find my own girlfriend in. things remained respectable, but it convinced me that i had a shot with this girl if she ever was single. recently, she broke up with the guy. i've been around her more often in the guise of helping her get through the breakup, and keeping her from falling for a rebound guy. i like to be there for friends and i'd like to think she's no exception. i also speak to the guy occassionally, but, never having been close to him, i don't spend as much time. i have invited him out to drinks and kept him updated on how the girl was doing when he did ask. the guy's cousin (other girl in the clique) constantly asks me if i've spent any time with the girl. she makes a point to ask this everytime we meet, and i detect jealousy. what i'm looking for is a damage control strategy. i'm very interested in the girl, and i'd like to approach her to develop something deeper than friendship. needless to say, in my present situation i have two people who can make things difficult for me, as well as for her. i've already made the decision to make her mine and deal with the social repercussions, but of course, i'd like the least trouble possible. - how do you go about making a move on an acquaintance's/friend's ex? - is it a good ida to talk to the friend whose ex youre interested in? and if so, what would you say? one of my friends suggested i "ask permission", which i found ridiculous, but i thought i should do something nevertheless. - is there a "cooling off" period before you can consider moving in on an acquaintance's ex? (6 months? one year?) any help would be appreciated.