SRS One of my close friends died yesterday

FBI-SS

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All I can think about is his children, he always had them with him. He was the breadwinner and one of them was in an out of the hospital with heart deformities all his life.


Fuck, idk what to even think or do, we talked damn near daily. I only talk to @crotch and my wife ( @mollywhop ) as much as I did with him


I’m trying to figure out a way to help his family out without bothering his wife too much today :wtc:
 

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damn sorry bro

maybe make sure theyre taken care of food-wise for a while? idk how to help other than actually being there, if they're open to it
 
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I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug:

Everyone processes grief differently. Some feel as if reaching out is going to be perceived as a bother when it's so fresh, but by your being his friend and checking in on her, even if it feels like intrusion to you, will likely be remembered very fondly by her. Even if she can't respond, she'll know that you're there. If you want to share, we're here to listen. :(
 
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SickOfItAll

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damn sorry bro

maybe make sure theyre taken care of food-wise for a while? idk how to help other than actually being there, if they're open to it
I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug:

Everyone processes grief differently. Some feel as if reaching out is going to be perceived as a bother when it's so fresh, but by your being his friend and checking in on her, even if it feels like intrusion to you, will likely be remembered very fondly by her. Even if she can't respond, she'll know that you're there. If you want to share, we're here to listen. :(
Both of these.

Reach out and offer condolences, and ask his wife if you can help in any way. Make a specific offer to drop off food (either meals they can eat immediately, or prepared foods that just need to be reheated) - it's easy to let grief take over mundane functions like cooking and eating. If there are other regular chores that might need doing, see if you can support them there as well - hire a cleaning service to come through, lawn care, the little things that can pile up and become overwhelming if not maintained.
 
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FBI-SS

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damn sorry bro

maybe make sure theyre taken care of food-wise for a while? idk how to help other than actually being there, if they're open to it
I just moved 15 hours away this month. I was going to see him next week and help him open up a store.

We legit had plans damn near every day to better our situations
 

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All I can think about is his children, he always had them with him. He was the breadwinner and one of them was in an out of the hospital with heart deformities all his life.


Fuck, idk what to even think or do, we talked damn near daily. I only talk to @crotch and my wife ( @mollywhop ) as much as I did with him


I’m trying to figure out a way to help his family out without bothering his wife too much today :wtc:
bring food by, offer to schedule a time to clean the house for her, help with the basics that are really hard when you're grieving
 
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SickOfItAll

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Jul 31, 2001
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Childcare might also be a big one to try to cover/arrange, while his wife and family manage his affairs. I don't know how many kids they had, or how much local support they have, but if she's doing this on her own that will be a hell of a lot on her plate.
 

Mercedes

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Feb 14, 2003
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Sorry for your loss man.

I've only had a few friends pass and its just fucking awful.

Buddy was in my wedding and passed away 2 weeks later in a bike crash.

Recently my friends brother just died on a bike, was in his 20's and had a kid too :wtc:

Life is short my friends.
Did you sell yours yet ?
 

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