Basically the jist of it: My grandmother on my father's side died early this morning, as I posted early this morning, and my father has been living with her for the past six years or so, after he moved her in with him when she started to get older. He basically stopped working and has been paying bills with her retirement since. Now that she is dead, he cannot afford to live in the place that he's currently in. He's perfectly capable of joining the workforce, he's a brilliant man. As of right now he has pretty much nothing in savings, 1-2 months of bills/etc. His current, non live in girlfriend was talking to us both today and she thinks I should move out of the place I just signed a new lease for (took over the lease for a friend) and move in with him until he gets his shit together, then I'll move out. Otherwise she doesn't see how he'll afford that place. I have no problem helping my father, but why the shit should I have to give up everything I've worked for. If he can't afford the place he's in, and I move in, I'll probably end up doing most of the work/paying most of the bills (the place is rented anyways), and I'll be sucked into staying there long term, which I do not want. I love my father, but he smokes 4-5 packs a day and I cannot stand cigarette smoke at all. He is also, basically, messy/unclean, whereas I am the polar opposite. His girlfriend seems convinced that this is the only way this is going to work, and has him pretty much convinced of this as well. We get along great, and I have no problem if he wants to come stay with me (I've got an extra room) while everything gets sorted out, but why should I have to drop everything and start over because he hasn't been responsible with his money ever since I've been alive?