first off weve been living together for about 2 years. she smoked when i met her thru friends. i always stayed clear of anyway smoking because i have cystic fibrosis and she wouldnt smoke around me. well about a couple of months after we started dating i asked her to quit smoking. by then she had seen all the bullshit i go thru just to be able to breath and she agreed. well id catch her up every now and then for the first month or so, no big deal. but after 4 months she started hiding it and we got in a big argument about it and i told her i didnt want to be with someone who smoked. so she agreed to quit for good. altho all she did was get better at hiding it. so now and then i would find a receipt for malboros or she would smell like smoke or she would have left a lighter in her car. everytime she had a good excuse.... she always hangs out with my brothers fiance who smokes. i hesitated to beilive her because i love her. then she got better at hiding it, always spraying her car/herself with perfume and having an endless supply of gum. we have had many disputes over stuff like this. well last august i asked her to marry me because i lover her and want to spend the rest of my life with her, by this time i think she has quit smoking for about a year. last saturday she was going thru her pockets and throwing stuff away, well she pulled out a lighter that was pretty much on the full side. and i questioned her about it. her answer was that it was from a long time ago. once again i hesitate to beilive herr but hey i do anyway. this morning i go out to start her car for her, this thing is a huge piece of shit and wont start in the cold without the help of a battery charger and i have to crank the thing for like tem minutes. but anway i see a brand new lighter on her seat when i get in, that makes me suspicious. so while im out there i take a look around and her purse is under the passenger seat. hmmm even more suspicious. i take a peek. what do you know a pack of cigarettes. i get the car started and she leaves for work. i text her and ask if shes missing anything. answer: no i then tell her i dont want to be with someone who is going to bluntly lie to my face. she says shes puzzeled. i then send a pic of the cigarettes. she played dumb and wanted to know where they came from. i told her to grow up and that she know where they came from she played dumb for about 15 more text messages and then finally admitted it i tell her how disgusted i was when i found them and lots of drama ensued. well now im at the point that she hid this from me for so long and lied to my face about it several times that i dont think i can trust her. and if she can do this with smoking she can do it with anything. (and i told her this) i also told her i dont want to be with someone who lies to my face and that i cant trust. she is now waiting for a response. yes it was wrong for me to look thru her stuff (its not something i like doing nor do i make a routine of it) but if you were in the same situation and thought someone was lying to you, you would have done the same thing. dont accuse me of trying to change her, she agreed to quit i tried to help her do so.