Can someone explain to me how being consistently late for meetings (and even being reprimanded for that and yet still continuing to do so), is considered being passive-agressive? I think I may be? People have told me that I don't stand up for myself and am a major pushover that even my own friends take advantage of me without knowing so (One friend told me that I'm a total Ned Flanders). I have been in a rape situation in the past as well. Recently, I've been suspecting that I've been trying to "compensate" by being more argumentative and tend to sort of lash out inconsistently. Is this considered a negative thing? Am I trying to compensate for my past? What goes on in my mind is "I'm not going to get stepped on ever again...and I'm not going to let people belittle me anymore?"