I need to know if this is NRE, or if its really whats happening. A little backround: So about 7 months ago my wife brought up the idea of openning our marriage. I was opposed to it. We seperated for a short time and then started counseling. Anyway, around mid December we started the process of openning things. Atleast for her, I didnt have any plans of being non-monogamous. She started talking to a guy via IM that was out of the country. I didnt like him. Jump to mid January and things go all the way, she starts being inimate with other people (ie sex and everything) with very few limits. I actually didnt have the problems with it that I thought I would and started considering if I was really monogamous. We started dating another couple and everything was fine. About 3 weeks ago the first guy she started talking to came back to town. I had some major problems that we had to sort out before I was ready for her to date him. We cleared most of it and decided that the remaining problems were mine alone to deal with. Anyway, things progressed quickly for her in that relationship, she feels a massive and powerful connection to him. Last week well talking about how things were going I told her how uncomfortable things were for me and how much I still disliked this guy. I wanted to know just what was going to happen in this situation. She confessed that things were moving much faster than she expected and she was very confused. We discussed divorce and she decided that she no longer loved me, and he meant much more to her than I ever did. She feels that all the "love" she felt for me in the past was just her reflecting the love I gave her, and wasnt really hers. She has decided that although she cares about me, she doesnt really love me and truly loves him. So my question is, is this just possibly NRE that is just over shadowing what she feels for me making it seem like it doesnt exist? Or is what she really feels? I know that no one can really say that but this is the first experience either of us have had with NRE and I dont want to make a rash decision. I dont want to throw away 5 years of marriage and split the kids simply for something that will fade in several months. My wife has a history of short lived relationships, she grows "tired" of relationships quickly. I am her longest relationship, the second longest was only about a year and was in high school. She told me that the only reason she stuck around was because of the kids. I know that I love her, I would go through hell and back for this women. Does any one have any input on this? Or should I just cut my loses and leave? I know doing so will be tough but I dont want to let go of what I feel is the best thing to ever happen to me. Thanks for your help OT.