I'm curious if we have any people here involved in polyamorous relationships that would like to just talk about some of the struggles they've been through in the course of them. I think it would be interesting to hear what does and doesn't work. I've always thought it seemed like a stretch that we as people with such diverse interests and long lives should be monogamous and share romantic love with only 1 person. It makes for a good movie but to steal a lyric from one of my favorite songs "you can't expect only one person to satisfy you eternally/To satisfy you emotionally, psychologically, sexually and intellectually for life" It seems like if we could break out of the monogamy thing that is instilled in us through life and lose some of the jealousy some of us might find even more happiness. Is it possible to have equal love in your polyamorous relationhips. Will someone always love and care for one of their partners just a little more than the other, are they ever equal? Does each new prospective partner have the potential as replacing you as "the favorite?" I don't know that I would ever feel comfortable in a poly relationship if that were the case but maybe thats not really the way it is. Its easy for the cool new person to come in and sweep someone off their feet and their old partner under the rug even if they are still loved. How do poly people cope with this?