The final results from this "relationship" I had with this 18 year old girl. Some background info. The last time we hung out in person, it was at her house, and got cut short due to me getting a flat tire. I started my new job on Wednesday. Wednesday night,, she asked if I wanted to meet up and hang out with her in town Thursday morning before I went to work...I said no, because I didn't want to drive a half hour to CR, then hang out for like 2 hours (without really doing anything, probably), and then drive 45 minutes over to Coralville for work. So, I suggested we just wait til the weekend when we both had the day off. She said ,"Ok", but then sounded upset and said "I have to go, I have things I need to do". I did not attempt to get a hold of her again that night after that. I end up talking to her online a little Thursday before work...she starts talking about how she wants me sexually, and think she is ready to have sex and stuff. I didn't get to talk to her Thursday night because we both had work. I come home last night (Friday night, only my 3rd real day of the new job), and IM her. Here is the exact conversation. MattThom01: ola Steph: hi Steph: I wanna talk to you about something actuallllly MattThom01: ok MattThom01: should I be worried? MattThom01: lol Steph: I wanna know if we can be friends???? MattThom01: haha MattThom01: i know what that means MattThom01: but sure Steph: ok MattThom01: can i ask what brought this on? Steph: well nothing really MattThom01: oh Steph: we just never see eachother anymore Steph: you know?? MattThom01: yeah MattThom01: but we both have work, and you have school Steph: yeah I know Steph: we are busy people Steph: I dont know if i want a bf anyways MattThom01: its gonna take a little work to make it work MattThom01: ok Steph: are you okay with this?? Steph: or not??? Steph: is there something you wanna say? MattThom01: it depends with what you mean by okay MattThom01: if i'm fine with it, no, I'm a little upset MattThom01: but if that's what you want, it's not like i can make up your mind for you Steph: yeah and I am sorrrrry Steph: really i am MattThom01: so um, when did you decide this? Steph: today actually MattThom01: ic MattThom01: i'm too busy for you? MattThom01: or what exactly is the problem? Steph: we are both too busy for eachother Steph: and I feeel like i have to come down there all the time MattThom01: you dont MattThom01: and i felt bad about the other day MattThom01: the next time you wanted to meet in town, even if i had to work, i was gonna come see you MattThom01: really, i was Steph: ok MattThom01: do you think i dont want to spend time with you? MattThom01: actually, i wont ask questions. Just tell me why you don't think we should be together Steph: I DONT WANT A BF MattThom01: ok Steph: I am tired of them right now MattThom01: alright Steph: i need ttime for myself Steph: you know?? MattThom01: yes MattThom01: i think so Steph: ok Steph: still confused????? Steph: go ahead ask alll the questions you wan Steph: want Steph: i dont mind MattThom01: i dont know if i have any questions, but i think you can understand that i feel a little bit of either upset or angry right now MattThom01: bu it's passing MattThom01: but you basically don't have enough time for yourself between work, school, and a relationship? Steph: yeah basicallyyyy MattThom01: alrighty MattThom01: I won't worry about asking if you want to hang out or do something tomorrow Steph: ok Steph: you seeem really mad Steph: are you sure you are okay?? MattThom01: no, i'm not ok right now, but what do you think I'm going to do? Try to gult trip you into staying in a relationship you don't want? MattThom01: I'm a big boy, I'll be fine Steph: your alittle scrawny man but okay I hope youll be fine MattThom01: yeah MattThom01: i just, i dunno, i wish you had said something if there had been any little problems, or things like that. But i suppose with the not having enough time for yourself thing, it just hits you all at once MattThom01: and I'm sorry for not having enough time for you, or taking up too much of your time, whichever it is Steph: no its fine Steph: i think this will be better thoguh for both of us Steph: you know?? MattThom01: no, i actually don't. At least, i don't see how it would be better for me. I understand you have to put yourself first, but please don't use that "it will be better for both of us" line unless you have an idea of how it would actually be better for me Then she signed off. So, it kinda looks like she broke up with me because I was suddenly too busy for her (after only 3 days!) and because I didn't want to come see her one time (because of having to work that day). She didn't even give it a chance. And oh yes, this was after only being exclusive for less than 2 weeks.