a couple years ago the person i was dating was killed in a car accident. it was horrible, unlike anything i had experienced before in my life. i had spent the night before at his house and it was amazing. i went to work that morning, anxious to get through the day to get home and meet him at our fire company. i called him when i got into the area, telling him that i was going to stop at home and change. he said ok and that he loved me. when i got home and was getting ready to go out we got dispatched for an accident down the road from the firehouse. so i hurried up and took an alternate route since the accident would be blocking my normal way of travel. when i got the firehouse, everyone was gone so i waited for them to get back, thinking he was on the call. our chief came back, looking very upset and asked me to come into his office. that is when he told me that my boyfriend had been killed. he was the passanger and the driver (also a member of our company) was flown via MedEvac. apparently the driver (who we shall call Joe) took a turn too fast, lost control and was t-boned by an oncoming car. it's been 3 years since then, and joe is still a member with the company. he still drives like an ass and hasn't really showed any kind of remorse or any emotion for that matter. and it hurts me because i lost someone who i loved vey much because of his wreckless ways and it just seems like it hasn't affected him at all. i don't hate him, i was never mad at him because accidents happen and i know that it was god's plan for him and that's why he didn't suffer, but i just don't know what to do about joe. maybe he acts like it didn't happen because it's the only way he can function??? i know several members of the company feel the same way and we weren't sure if we should leave him alone or try to talk to him about it. any advice?