Hiya , I've got an embarrassing question . Honestly how freaked out will a man be when he finds out that I'm a 30something sexual virgin ? Physically , I'm supershort and flat-chested and skinny . So I've spent my entire adult life , up to this point , looking like I'm aged 12 . The only adult tip off I have is the several grey hairs that have shown up in the last 5 years . For the last 20 years , I've been virtually "invisible" to men which has made it next to impossible to get a serious relationship off the ground . When I was younger it didn't bother me about not constantly getting "hit on" whenever I went out to bars or coffeehouses . But now I truely want to have my own family and I'm losing valuable baby-making years . Any suggestions to stop me from being desperate and choosing the first a** that can't get anyone else to put up with his screwed up behavior would be very welcome !