Last week I broke up with my girlfriend of ~7 months and I feel like shit. I'm bored at work all day so I get a lot of thinking time in. Throughout my thinking I determined that there was 'no future' for her and I. I felt like I didn't want to marry her and I wouldn't even want to move in with her. The problem: she has always been an amazing girlfriend to me. I've treated her great as well. We never fought and there weren't any huge annoyances on either camp (afaik). So it was hard enough for me to bring myself to the break-up, I mean, every time we hung out we both had a great time -- whether we'd go for a walk, go snowboarding or just stay in the house all day, I enjoyed it. Now it's a week since we've spoken and I'm getting edgy. Like calling her would make me feel 1000% better. But I know it'd set us back to ground zero. We're both 29. I feel like if we were 18 I'd just call her up, or not break-up to begin with and just enjoy it. But I feel like time is ticking away here and I don't want to waste either of our time. I was talking to a buddy about it today and he seemed a little baffled about my 'future' seeing and said that if we enjoyed each others company then what's the problem. He didn't seem phased by our ages. ## Although I feel like we'd be here without; she has a daughter who drives me nuts. I don't feel like I could put up with supporting her [daughter] if we moved in together [food, rent, etc.] I like kids, I want kids, but not this one. I'm comfortable with dating girls with kids, but I guess this may be a lesson to duck out at the first sign of nut-kids. I guess what I'm looking for from you is: if I feel like I genuinely want to spend time with a girl and that I truly do care about her yet I feel a knock in my head saying 'this won't last' should I go out with her or move on? I don't want to lead her on. If I didn't have to worry about the future I'd stay with her. Should I stfu and live more for the present? It's starting to dig at me as this is my third girlfriend. My first was for three years, second was for six years and the most recent. I came to the same 'conclusion' with my previous girlfriend of six years -- we were looking at houses and I got into a mindset of 'i don't want to marry you' and we broke up. We had an otherwise great relationship too. I just hope I'm not turning into a self-relationship-saboteur. I spent the weekend at a buddies place and we hung out with a bunch of friends all weekend, so I'm doing the right things to keep my mind off her, it's just that it's 2:30am and I'm alone going to bed for work and my mind is now reeling. Breaking up sucks.