Hi OT I am down in the dumps and need some assistance with my relationship. I met this girl a while ago who was missing two fingers, and I didn't want to date her because of it.. As much as I pushed away, she chased..did cute things. Sang to me. Told me I was her wonderwall..yada yada. ALWAYS did these cute things to get me..and because of those cute things..I went ahead and started dating her. She used to say we can talk about anything..would always want to come over. Would just be completely all over me, and that special connection made me "us" feel so right. She is very attractive and has had boyfriends before that have lasted years. They used to beat her, and were general assholes. They were "jerks", who I once was when i met her. After a month, she told me that she has only fallen in love with two guys, one after a year, and I was the second one.....And it felt so right so I guess I told her I did too. Stupid me, huh? Well I guess I felt like it WAS amazing, beacuse it was...seriously. After I told her that..EVERYTHING went downhill. She started acting differently and I got mad at her about it one day. Another mistake. The next day she told me she doesn't love me anymore, but we had sex and she said she felt the same again. (weird?) After that day, she started leaving early, not calling me or texting me as much, not acting as open. When we tried talking, she would just blow it off like nothing. So I broke up with her. She was "too busy" to talk at the time (but was just hanging out with friends) so I said okay and started ignoring her. She came to my house, got drunk, and left me a message on my computer: "Mike I love you. I'm sorry I have trouble showing it sometimes and my mind trips me out. I've never had a guy care for me like you do, and I'm just not used to it. But always know that you have my heart." And I told her "Never tell me you love me again until you actually mean it." and she replied, "I love you." But, I don't feel it. Actions speak louder than words. She isn't as into me as she used to be. She always just wants to hang out, and never do anything special. When I was being a jerk, she was totally into me. Chasing me. Doing ANYTHING and being super happy about me. As soon as I started showing her love and my true self (which is not a jerk..I'm kinda a "nice guy") she called me clingy (we hang out like 2-3 times a week...), starts mentioning things that "turn her off", doesn't sing to me anymore..just wants to go to sleep right away...no romance, just quickies..And I HATE this new her. All of her ex boyfriends were dickwads I want to break up with her, but I would rather make her act like she loves me again. Because I LOVE that connection we once had. More than anything I've ever wanted. Maybe I'm showing her too much love and not giving her a chance or something? Where I think I messed up (events leading up to her changing): -Started talking to her about my problems -Started acting clingy (uh..not really clingy cause we hang out twice a week..just alot more into her) -Told her I love her -Got mad at her one time -Actually stopped smoking weed for her because she told me I needed to..(and after I did she said she likes it better when I smoke..) And on the message she left me that says "..I'm sorry I have trouble showing it sometimes..", that's bullshit because when I first met her, she TOTALLY knew how to show it. Is this a lost cause, or can I turn this back around? Help me out here OT. I'm so lost.