Lately I feel taken advantage of by my so. We are flat broke and I don't have the money to leave right now. There is nobody I can stay with long enough to get back on my feet, and I am trying to deal with this in the hopes we can stay togther and work things out. This all started so about a year and a half ago. I quit my job because the resteraunt was going to go under and I was being sexually harassed.(No I can't do anything about it because I wasn't on the books.) I almost had a job when I quit and it fell through. So I was spending everyday walking around looking for a job. I ran out of money and the SO started supporting me, as in buying me smokes and food and personal necessities. In return I do all of the cooking and cleaning in the apartment. I was fine with this and and did it without him asking me to. I had been unemployed about 3 months. I get really depressed, and all of this time I keep interviewing and then I got a job. I immediately start paying down the utility bills all of which are in my name. At this point in time they are at about $1500.00, I am only making minimum wage at $ 7/hr. I manage to pay them off with no help from him. I keep switching jobs to get a higher pay, and better working conditions. I suceed. I am now at a good job for ok pay. But I am always broke. Now here's the problem...He still dosen't do any cleaning, dosen't help with the bills, dosen't bring in wood for the stove and never cooks. He won't even do his laundry. (I know I shouldn't be doing it but he wears dirty clothes and stinks so I am embasassed if I don't. Yes we have had the personal hygine talk and is a bit better, but not much.) I have tried explaining calmly, and now I have broken down. I have started nagging, shouting and yelling. I know this does not help, but I am at a loss about what to do. I'm just so frustrated. I have also explained this to him, and tried to be a better person. Since I have done this, things have gotten worse.(duh) He used to make promises to change his behavior now he dosen't, he just gets angry. He talks to me in a harsh tone of voice most of the time now, even if it isn't me that he's upset at. We've had the leave the office at the office talk. Didn't work and he won't quit and intends to work at it for the rest of his life because it's a family business. The only bill he pays is rent, and his own personal loan, he orders takeout and buys crap till all of his spending money is gone.Then expects me to spend what I have for myself buying him smokes, and I have done this for a year now. He smokes at least a pack a day. He also makes more money than me. He is supposed to be quitting but he still has a pack a day habbit. He puts me down in front of his friends and claims he's only joking. Maybe I'm sensitive but I don't think he is. When we're alone, he ignores me most of the time and if I talk to him he pretends he dosen't hear. I've told him if he dosen't change I'm leaving, he hasn't but claims he loves me. He's also gained a bunch of weight, and stopped talking to most of his friends. But the friends he stopped talking to are the ones that treated me badly. There is no affection towards me, only sex and not very often. I don't think he is cheating? Could he just be depressed? I'm his first real relationship, so I try to be understanding and take that into account. Another theory is he is tired of all the comments people make to him.Everyone tells him he's lucky to have me, but in a not so nice way. See the thing is I'm a 5'4 115lb strawberry blond, and I attract a lot of attention from guys. So a lot of comments get made to him. Maybe he resents me for people being like why are you with him? But seriously am I just being taken advantage of? I'm getting my life in order to go if I have to. Do you guys think he loves me? I feel so alone I don't know what to do. Plaese excuse the the spelling I'm upset.