I guess a little back story would help. Started dating 9 months ago, we were both in great shape, there was plenty of sex, we had "active" dates, open communication (talk about anything), it just seemed perfect and my friends even approved of her (they had not approved of my past gfs). As of the now... we both fell out of shape. When I voiced this concern we both agreed to get back into shape. So far I have stayed true to my word. I hired a personal trainer and my 6-pack is back. She on the other hand, well her small gut as well turned into a big fat one. When I talked to her about it, she got very upset with me. Make a note this was the first time she had ever gotten upset with me. When it comes to active dates... we use to go out and do stuff during the weekends. Be it a picnic, go-carting, shooting, mini-golf, sailing, parks, museums, plays, bar hopping, etc... Today it seems like all we do is watch a movie or a TV show at my place, take a nap and she goes home. The sex life has gone to hell. We use to do it 3 times a day, and she would initiate about half of it. Today, well... it feels like I have to beg for it and we maybe have sex 3 times a week. Our communication is going down hill. When ever I bring up one of these issues, she changed the topics, says she will change or she will wait until she gets home and then text me about the issue. It is starting to feel like certain topics or no longer "open", we have to ignore them or text about them.