I've upset my gf and don't know what to do. I have now been with my gf for over 4.5 years. The other day her grandmother passed away. over the next couple of days she seemed to not be upset about the situation, as it was unexpected. I attended the funeral w/ her and was a pallbearer. During all this she still had not shown any signs of being upset. Today at dinner i noticed she was not eating, and told me she had not eaten much over the last few days. when i tried to find out more about why she said we would talk about it later. so in the car i asked her what was going on, and i asked if it had to do with her grandmother. and she said it was. after that she started telling me about how she felt i wasn't there for her when she needed me and she felt like i didn't care much. i tried to explain myself but all i could say is that i just didn't realize she was upset. somehow we ended up getting in an argument and now i feel like i really fucked something up. as soon as we got home we both just said bye and went seperate ways. right after she left i got a text message saying that she was confused and didn't want to talk right now. i messaged her a few times back and every response had something to do with how she did not feel like talking right now. I really want to apologize to her, but i want to do it in person. we live in the same apartment complex so it would be just walking distance away and i could leave right after. i don't know if i should though, considering she said she did not want to talk. cliffs: gf feels i wasnt supportive enough after her grandmother dies. should i go over there anyways? or should i just wait until she calls me and then go over there before we start too much conversation over the phone? im really worried because i dont want to lose her, and i dont know what to do. this is the first time shes ever been this upset with me. in the 4.5 years we have never really had any big fights.