I am under a ton of financial strain right now. I am funding my way through college and living in a family with an unemployed member who at one time was the provider for all of us. Now all the debt is kind of dispersed between us all and it is stressing us all out. So I used to be supplemented so to speak by my ex with the money thing. He would buy me things I couldn't afford but wanted or needed although that was all voluntary or like, gifts. I never asked him to buy me anything. He would also pay for anything and everything basically when we went out and he would basically drive. If we went out of town or something and I drove he would pay for all of my gas. My boyfriend before him was the same way but I would often insist on paying because at that time my part time job was basically my spending money seeing as I didn't have many bills. So here is the point I guess. I've never been in a relationship where my boyfriend wasn't making significantly more than me. In other words he is unable to pay for food every time or get both movie tickets. I don't know how to justify who pays what because, right or wrong, I have an old fashioned view of this. I feel kind of like the guy should pay more often. I understand also the guy can't always do this. When those in here, still in the dating game, go out, how much do you pay for or how do you judge who should pay? I plan on talking about this with my boyfriend because it has become a problem in my mind and also I am being put under more financial strain from my family. I guess I just want to have the right mindset when I decide to say something about it. No matter how equal or unequal it is, something has to change because I don't have the money. I just kinda gotta work it all out and it would be nice to have other peoples views on it, or maybe even suggestions on how to deal with issues like this.