I have the opportunity to date a few different attractive girls that I know... the only thing holding me back is that I don't have feelings for any of them. The only girl I do have feelings for has a boyfriend (not my ex incase you guys read my previous thread ). For some reason I feel an instant connection with this girl... I don't know what it is about her... I don't even know her... but the feelings are there. The odd thing is in all the times we've gone out (always in a social setting with her friends and my friends) she has never once mentioned that she has a boyfriend. I was making conversation with some of her friends at a football tailgate we were having and asked why she wasn't there and they said she was with her boyfriend (from highschool apparently... we're all in grad school now). When I asked her why she didn't come to our tailgate, she told me she was busy with her brother... I guess basically what i'm asking is what do you guys think about this situation? Should I go ahead and date around with various girls I don't care about or should I pursue the girl I like even though she may be involved with someone else (or at least until she says "hey, I have a boyfriend"). Did any of you date people you didn't have a connection with and then the emotions came later? Keep in mind i've only been with 1 girl (15 months) and I didn't ask her out until I realized I had feelings for her just as I have for this new girl. What do I do?