I've never gotten into a relationship when I was trying. My first LTR - she was on my floor freshman year in college. It "just happened." My second LTR - she was in a class with me Senior year in college. It "just happened." My third LTR - met her on Myspace but I wasn't looking for a date or a gf. It "just happened." Recent LTR - met her at work. A situation arose one day in an elevator where she forgot to press the button to go to her floor, so I pressed it for her as I was getting off on my floor and then laughed at her and then sent her an email teasing her again. We started emailing/talking. It "just happened." The only dates I've ever been on when I was actively looking for a date at the time have sucked. I wonder if it's just how I'm perceiving things, or I wonder if it's the universe working in mysterious ways or "the Secret" or whatever. You know, like meeting the right person when the time is right.