radfad88
The Batman-O-Lantern
Well about a month ago my roommate (male) had his girlfriend down from Atlanta to visit. They've been an on/off couple for 5 years now. The day she's leaving from her weekend stay, they mention something to one another about how happy they're going to be living together. I immediately give a
look and ask what's up. My roommate tells me he wants her to move down here and live with us. Sooo I tell him we'll talk about it later since I'm on my way out the door.
I come home and talk to him a little bit, want to get all the details on what exactly he/she are thinking. My roommate and I come up with an outline of what we want to go down. I tell him it's not really worth it to me to let her move in (lease is in my name) unless she's paying 1/3 of everything (rent and utilities), also she has a cat (I already have one) so that means 2 more living souls in my 2 bedroom 2 bath apartment. I agreed that the cat could come with only on a trial basis to see how she and my cat are together. I also point out that having another person using the kitchen is going to cause more of a mess and that I expect her to clean up behind herself exactly as I do (I never ever have dirty dishes in the sink or food out or anything, it's clean at all times). I told him to talk to his gf about all of this and let me know what she thinks.
Two weeks later I ask if he's talked to her yet, he says "yeah everything's great" I even bring up the points of our talk again "ok so, you're each going to handle 1/3 of the rent/bills and she understands that her cat has to behave and get along with everyone/thing to stay, right?" He said yeah.
Well 2 more weeks passes and she moves here. That was a week ago. She still hasn't unpacked most of her things and they're just sitting in boxes in our living room. Her cat does nothing but meow all day/night long over nothing and hiss/claw at my cat as she walks by. Her cat bit my roommate the other day because he was trying to pet her and yesterday she pissed all over our leather chair. Meanwhile my cat is just like
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I came home today to a huge pile of dishes, when I asked my roommate about them he said "don't ask me they're the girlfriend's". I did the dishes because she was gone and I needed to use the kitchen to cook dinner.
The worst part was a few days ago, I took the girlfriend to the store to get groceries. On the way back the subject of the economy came up and at some point she asked "how much is y'alls rent anyway?" I gave her a
look and said "what do you mean, didn't he tell you, it's $XX, but that's really not bad split 3 ways" then she gave me a
look and said he hadn't told her anything about it, and when asked he just said that I'd be fine leaving things split between the two of us. She started freaking out and almost CRYING saying that she could barely afford her car payment/insurance and food right now, let alone rent and utilities. I tried to keep my cool without saying anything like "oh it's okay you don't have to". I just said we'd all talk about it when we got home.
The roomie, his gf, and me sat down and ironed it out, I stuck to my guns and said basically if they couldn't pay more than they're paying now, then she needed to go back home. It came down to a breakdown of communication, I assumed everything we talked about was being passed along, and she assumed she was moving in for absolutely nothing. He agreed to pay both their parts since his mom gives him a monthly allowence of just about that much (plus he has a job) and all was okay (we'll see at the 1st of the month when everything is due). So I guess she's not paying anything and he's just paying all her shit.
After the incident with the money thing, I don't want to bring up more stuff to bitch about but I'm really seeing that this living situation isn't going to be great for me. She's barely home and when she is she isn't taking care of dishes/unpacking/her cat. Should I bring it up now or wait a while to say something? If so what do I say to make her feel welcome, but still make it clear as to what I expect in my home?
CLIFFS: my roommate moved his gf in our house without laying the ground rules down as we'd discussed, now I'm getting shit on and I don't know what to do to keep the peace while still ensuring things get straightened out...

I come home and talk to him a little bit, want to get all the details on what exactly he/she are thinking. My roommate and I come up with an outline of what we want to go down. I tell him it's not really worth it to me to let her move in (lease is in my name) unless she's paying 1/3 of everything (rent and utilities), also she has a cat (I already have one) so that means 2 more living souls in my 2 bedroom 2 bath apartment. I agreed that the cat could come with only on a trial basis to see how she and my cat are together. I also point out that having another person using the kitchen is going to cause more of a mess and that I expect her to clean up behind herself exactly as I do (I never ever have dirty dishes in the sink or food out or anything, it's clean at all times). I told him to talk to his gf about all of this and let me know what she thinks.
Two weeks later I ask if he's talked to her yet, he says "yeah everything's great" I even bring up the points of our talk again "ok so, you're each going to handle 1/3 of the rent/bills and she understands that her cat has to behave and get along with everyone/thing to stay, right?" He said yeah.
Well 2 more weeks passes and she moves here. That was a week ago. She still hasn't unpacked most of her things and they're just sitting in boxes in our living room. Her cat does nothing but meow all day/night long over nothing and hiss/claw at my cat as she walks by. Her cat bit my roommate the other day because he was trying to pet her and yesterday she pissed all over our leather chair. Meanwhile my cat is just like


I came home today to a huge pile of dishes, when I asked my roommate about them he said "don't ask me they're the girlfriend's". I did the dishes because she was gone and I needed to use the kitchen to cook dinner.
The worst part was a few days ago, I took the girlfriend to the store to get groceries. On the way back the subject of the economy came up and at some point she asked "how much is y'alls rent anyway?" I gave her a


The roomie, his gf, and me sat down and ironed it out, I stuck to my guns and said basically if they couldn't pay more than they're paying now, then she needed to go back home. It came down to a breakdown of communication, I assumed everything we talked about was being passed along, and she assumed she was moving in for absolutely nothing. He agreed to pay both their parts since his mom gives him a monthly allowence of just about that much (plus he has a job) and all was okay (we'll see at the 1st of the month when everything is due). So I guess she's not paying anything and he's just paying all her shit.
After the incident with the money thing, I don't want to bring up more stuff to bitch about but I'm really seeing that this living situation isn't going to be great for me. She's barely home and when she is she isn't taking care of dishes/unpacking/her cat. Should I bring it up now or wait a while to say something? If so what do I say to make her feel welcome, but still make it clear as to what I expect in my home?
CLIFFS: my roommate moved his gf in our house without laying the ground rules down as we'd discussed, now I'm getting shit on and I don't know what to do to keep the peace while still ensuring things get straightened out...