LOVE Second time around.

Second time around.

  • Yes, it was/still is awesome, if not better than the first time.

    Votes: 16 21.6%
  • Yes, it was worse, I regretted it, ex's are ex's for a reason.

    Votes: 29 39.2%
  • No, never would not consider it.

    Votes: 16 21.6%
  • No, but I would consider it.

    Votes: 18 24.3%

  • Total voters
    74

le_rocks

New Member
Jun 20, 2004
13,378
Houston, TX
Has anyone ever had a successful second time relationship with an ex? You guys broke up, months, even years later, try again and it becomes a better relationship.
 

spidey255

Active Member
Jan 16, 2006
1,185
NJ
I was with a girl for 9 months, we broke up, got back together after around 2 months and it was absolute hell. Somehow I stuck around for another 5 months.
 

Leaden Grudge

OT Supporter
Oct 26, 2003
1,723
I'm on my second round with the girlfriend right now and it's better. I think it can work, but both of you need to make changes and then consciously keep them up every day.
 
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fray

Active Member
Aug 19, 2006
5,212
i'm in the process of deciding whether this is a good route to go...
 

antihero

OT Supporter
Aug 19, 2002
15,294
NYC
i did it once with good results. thing was we dated for a year, then 4 years apart, then dated for another year or so.

completely different relationships really.
 

lamour

New Member
Dec 9, 2008
60
i dated a guy for two years in high school, we broke up didnt speak for 7 months, and then got back together for another two years until we realized long distance wasnt for us, so yea i think that was pretty succesful.
 

lamour

New Member
Dec 9, 2008
60
I guess our definitions of successful must be different. I wouldn't consider wasting four years of my life on someone I didn't end up being with forever, as successful.

how are you ever gonna find the person you spend the rest of your life with unless you try different relationships? At those points in time when you reconsider being with someone again you should hopefully see that kind of future with a person, but a relationship that dosent end up as "forever" isnt a waste if you had a good time and learned something from it. Thats in my opinion what makes us grow and able to move on to better relationships which hopefully will last forever.
 

iwishyouwerebeer

you shut your cunt
Sep 1, 2006
31,942
yep that's the one :o wow I was reading through that thread and wow. so now what do you think? you usually aren't wrong and give really good advice.
Well it depends....After two "wonderful" years (I quote wonderful because that's what you said in the thread) why did you finally break up? Did she get that stupid ass fairy tattoo? Has she grown up at all or does she still do things for instant gratification instead of thinking about consequences?

I guess what I'm asking is why? Why would it be different now? Why did it end in the first place?
 

TheGetUpkid

New Member
Sep 9, 2004
1,682
Maryland
Voted for the first option. Together for 3 years went on a break for a couple of months and got back together for another year till we broke up again. She actually came back recently in June of this year cause I guess she was starting developing feelings for me again (even though she still has a BF) but nothing progressed between me and her :hs:.
 
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le_rocks

le_rocks

New Member
Jun 20, 2004
13,378
Houston, TX
Well it depends....After two "wonderful" years (I quote wonderful because that's what you said in the thread) why did you finally break up? Did she get that stupid ass fairy tattoo? Has she grown up at all or does she still do things for instant gratification instead of thinking about consequences?

I guess what I'm asking is why? Why would it be different now? Why did it end in the first place?
She's grown up a lot. And so have I. She has her own place, has her own money and is very much a well rounded person. We broke up the first time cause we both fell out of love? I guess would be the right phrase. But something about seeing her again, just sparked. :o
 
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le_rocks

New Member
Jun 20, 2004
13,378
Houston, TX
Voted for the first option. Together for 3 years went on a break for a couple of months and got back together for another year till we broke up again. She actually came back recently in June of this year cause I guess she was starting developing feelings for me again (even though she still has a BF) but nothing progressed between me and her :hs:.
are you gonna pursue it?
 

TheGetUpkid

New Member
Sep 9, 2004
1,682
Maryland
are you gonna pursue it?

I tried. She was and is still with her BF that she said was happy with but was really confused since she started to spend more time around me. I really wanted to get back with her but I wasn't about to try to break up their relationship so I told her to let me know if she ever makes a decision. We didn't talk for 2 or so months and she's still with the same BF. I've sorta just shrugged it off but the damage has already been done and gets me down from time to time. Sorta messed up for her to imply that we might get married in the near future in a graduation Thank You card, but thats just me lol.
 

ForgottenSpiral

Hope and Irony
OT Supporter
Feb 2, 2004
23,336
NoVA
I'm currently on round two with my gf. I would say right now things are looking pretty bad. There were times after we got back together that they were good though. Still in it and working on things. I'm going to reserve my answer for a few months though. :hs:
 
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le_rocks

New Member
Jun 20, 2004
13,378
Houston, TX
I'm currently on round two with my gf. I would say right now things are looking pretty bad. There were times after we got back together that they were good though. Still in it and working on things. I'm going to reserve my answer for a few months though. :hs:
good luck. It sucks, cause this is the girl i still think about all the time. It's been two years and she's stil on my mind.
 

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