Does any one have any experience with self defeating issues? basically I think i have some of these issues. Recently i have decided apon moving away from home after school to persue my career. I have also started to see this girl but have decided not to persue dating her because of wanting to move at the end of this semester. what i wonder is if im even bringing this up as a way to convince myself to stay home, or if im using wanting to move away as an excuse to not take a relationship risk.