Ok....so this is about my best friend actually, I don't know if this situation is any of my business or not My buddy Lance, he's been my best friend since we were 6. He's always been a pretty shy guy like me....always been really nice...etc. While I was way in FL for college, he got into his very first relationship and they ended up loosing their virginity to eachother...they love eachother...and she then moves in with him. I would have assumed that they were a happy couple. But now that I am now back home in Washington, hanging out with Lance and his GF....and he is a completely different person....and it's not good at all. Basically...the way my buddy handles the relationship is absolutely horrible. For starters...all they do is fight. They cannot go 3 minutes without blowing up at eachother, and it's always over some stupid petty bullshit. Lance will blow up over anything and always blames it on the GF. He's now somewhat of an Alcoholic...and when he drinks, he gets mad. He then explodes even worse and will find any small thing to start a fight...and gets mean. Like for Halloween his GF accidently misplaced part of a pumpkin or some shit...and he explodes, they get into this huge argument and he's trying to kick her out of the house...etc. I mean, just lame ass shit. He also mimics his uncle(who lives downstairs) who is a complete womanizer....in the sense that males are the superior...and women just need to know their place...etc. So he is very controlling of her and basically rules her life. *** It doesnt appear to be too bad...but belive me...it's absolutely horrible. I'd be ashamed of myself if I was acting like that. There is a lot of other crap going on...and I'm kind of confused at why my friend is acting this way. Lance has NEVER acted this way before...and to tell you the truth, I am completely uncomfortable and embarissed by his behavior. I don't even really enjoy hanging out with him anymore...because it's never fun. They're always together and always fighting. And I hate it. Not to mention that I feel sorry for his GF. She is young and immature(as is he)...yes. She does pick some fights too....so Lance isn't completely to blame...but in all...she's a really good girl and I hate to see her be treated like that and get this ugly side of Lance, when in reality he's a great guy. He does love her, and she loves him....but their relationship is so completely unhealthy....Lance doesn't even appear to be happy and neither does she. *** I just want them to be happy and to see my buddy actually happy and in a good relationship because they are important to eachother. And I've known the guy since I was 6...I want his life to be well and happy. I don't even think that Lance is aware of his actions, otherwise he wouldn't be acting like it. I've kind of hinted at it a few times when they were done arguing and he was bitching about it to me. All of this shit has happened...and I've only been back home for a few weeks now...so this lifestyle has been going on for a while now. *** Should I step in and try to smooth things out and settle him down, help him out. Or. Should I just stay back, mind my business and let them learn their lessons? And go on with their own lives? I dont know. I want to step in, but I don't know how he'll react(especially about the drinking) and I don't want to cause any shit between us.