My firiend (and yes, I really do mean my friend) is in need of some advice before he goes crazy and explodes. Basically, he's been dating this one girl for about 4-5 months. He's gonna be 23 at the end of the month and she's 19. Things are great, he loves her to death, they get along. She claims she loves him, says he's the best thing to ever happen to her etc but she doesn't do anything. Now that wouldn't be a problem if Ryan (my friend) wasn't going out of his way to please her sexually. She just refuses to reciprocate. Problem is, is that he is the nicest guy on the planet so he's quietly dealt with it for the past few months.. Going down on her, making out with her, playing with her tits etc.. Yet his clothes always have to stay on. He's not mad at her, just frustrated. She'll send him flirty text messages about how "tonights the night" but then when he picks her up and takes her back to his place, he does his part.. they lay together for a bit, and then she says it's time to go back home or she suggests they watch a movie etc. Now this girl IS a virgin, so he's thinking she's just insanely shy and scared because she's inexperienced. I can relate to that bit. But for me, I actually *want* to get my guy off so even when I'm not sure, or scared how to do something, I'll look it up or watch porn ( ) til I get it. I can understand being scared to do something for the first time, but it's getting to the point where it's not fair to him anymore. He wants to talk to her about it, and they've had mini conversations in the past in which she apologizes and says she feels bad, but still nothing has changed. Are there any certain things he should be saying to her? He's scared he'll sound like a jerk but basically everytime they hang out, she gets off and he gets nothing and it's getting to the point where it physically hurts him and emotionally as well, since it is a quiet sort of rejection. Any advice?