lol just sitting here thinking how to explain this one is hard enough ok theres this girl that ive known for years (im 26, shes 24 BTW) we've always had an attraction to each other, flirted alot, nothing has ever happened (although ive wanted her for quite a while) - there was always just something else in the way. i had a girlfriend, she had a boyfriend, etc etc. well now im a single man, and shes, well, not in a serious relationship. she was with this guy for about a year, he recently moved to Tennesee to go to grad school (about 6 months ago i think). anyways, they stayed together at first of course, but like most long distance deals things started falling apart.... which brings us to about 6 weeks ago or so, me and her finally went out for the first time as a "date" (as opposed to just hanging out with mutual friends or something). now we've been "dating" for 6 weeks or so. the problem is the guy from Tennesee is still "around". i mean obviously hes not here fucking her or anything, but they still talk. about a week ago me and her had this big conversation about the whole deal, her dating me and not telling him yet, etc etc. she finally "broke up" with the guy, but again, didnt tell him about me. now things are fuckin great when we go out, hang out, talk, etc. we have fun, laugh, fuck around, ive met her family and shit - all that "bf-gf" type stuff. problem is, she just isnt 100% over this other guy. she doesnt lie about it or anything like that... shes honest, told me, hey i still have feelings for him and its hard to just stop talking to someone ive been with for over a year, etc etc. she assures me how much she really does like me, how much fun she has with me - but still just wont 100% cut this dude off, or tell him shes seeing me. shes "confused, not sure what to do about the way she has feelings for 2 people" at first it was ok, didnt bother me all that much, "hey hes in tennessee, im here, fuck him". but now, i really have grown feelings for her, i want her "to myself" i guess is the best way to put it. fucking shit bothers the shit outta me to no end. i cant be all pushy and shit or thatll just push her away, but i cant just sit aroudn letting us get closer and closer with the possibility of me getting fucked over in the end one day when this other guy makes some plea to fix all their problems or something..... *sigh* just ranting, wtf do i do?