I have a very good friend in the states (Im in canada) and we usually talk on IM Services to each other... havent had the chance to meet yet but it doesnt change the fact that we are good friends. Well, a lil background... this good friend is in her early 20s, married and has a 5year old daughter. Her husband as far as I know is... a POS. They are constantly fighting... he doesnt do a goddamn thing for her, he doesnt care about her unless some other guy is hitting on her, he suspects she is cheating when in real life he is the cheater. He takes care of his kid every once in a while, he is at work till late evening, they make plans to go out, he changes them the last minute... mainly to hang out with his friends "for business reasons". Anyway, I know for sure he was cheating on her before... he told my bf but never his wife. So she asked me yesterday to find out if that cheating story back then was true cos she has the same feeling again and she doesnt know how to address it cos he doesnt like to talk and when they do it ends up in a huge fight and doesnt solve anything let alone help anything. Yesterday she told me that her husband was out with a few friends for dinner. He told her that he'll go to a friends house afterwards. Later on he signed in on myspace, the friend he was staying with too. She asked his friend if her husband was at his house... no he wasnt. He changed his passwords here and there... all that bullshit that would make me suspicious too. They also break up every 2 months at least... shit, they broke up a while ago (he kicked her and the kid out for a while), got back together... dont ask me why. She kinda wants to leave (sometimes) but doesnt have the support or money to just pack her things and leave. Her family isnt really there for her, she doesnt have a job cos she cant afford a babysitter for her daughter... so no job, no money, no babysitter... its a vicious cycle. So my problem or questions is... should I tell her that he was cheating on her before? I mean I definitely would be like "Listen, I know he did it before but that doesnt mean he does it now". Im pretty damn sure he does tho. I just dunno what to do with that... I feel sorry for her and I wish I could help her but even tho she is just like a 9 hour drive away from me, I cant do shit cos Im in Canada. Im lost.