I feel like a chick with all the stuff my friend gossips to me about his gf... Anyway, the only reason I'm posting this is because I almost see where his gf is coming from, and because I've learned so much here, I need to check my opinion with other Vagers. The situation: My friend lives with another friend. He has an hour commute to and from work. His gf lives about 30 min from where HE works, so she's like "why don't you stay with me a few nights a week?" Nice, right? Oh, he usually spends the weekends over there, too (I know because the bastard never hangs out with us anymore). So today he tells me that last night his gf basically said that she either wants him to "move in" or "only come over 2 days a week." She said she's sick of him staying there for free while she pays rent. Alright, at first, I was like "dude, you have your own rent to pay." But then I was like "no, wait, I think I see where she is coming from." But THEN, I thought that the thing about "or else only see me 2 days a week" is BS because a) it's an ultimatum (I think ultimatums are BS) and b) if she really wanted to see him, she would still want him to come over as much as possible, right? I think she is being manipulative. My friend doesn't want to move in with her right now because they have a, um, volatile past, and he doesn't feel comfortable moving in at this point. He said even tho he's pretty much over there 4 or 5 nights a week, he still likes having his own place because it provides a "safety net." I think if I were in the reverse situation, I wouldn't mind having a live-in gf, and I wouldn't charge her rent I don't think, either. So, what does the Vag think?