Wirelessly posted via wap.offtopic.com (SAMSUNG-SGH-I607/I607FG1 Mozilla/4.0 (compatible; MSIE 4.01; Windows CE; Smartphone; 320x240)) we had been living together since October. she told me tonight that she had been feeling neglected for a while and was building resentment. i was busy w work and stuff for the last few months pretty bad. she said she wanted me to spend more time w her, and i told her that i wanted to, too, but i had been busy starting my own company and stuff. she said she felt like she wasnt a priority. i told her that part of the reason i was working so hard was because our relationship *was* my prority and i was trying to get myself established so that i wouldnt be some jobless bum, that i was thinking long term (us in the future, building income, security, etc.) and i was sorry the short term suffered as a result. she was unable to understand that and still insisted she wasnt a priority because i didnt spend enough time w her. sometimes i also stayed up late working after she went to bed. i guess that's a big deal that one was my bad. i feel bad. i liked going to sleep all snuggled up. ironically, my gf's weakpoint is communication, but tonight i felt was the first time we actually *heard* each other. she said she felt it was best if we didnt live together anymore. i was like uh, so where does that leave us then? she's all "i dunno." i said im not doing another break and she agreed, but i didnt give her an ultimatum (fuck i wanted to so bad, but i learned that doesnt work) so i was like alright, what are we gonna do then, date on the weekends? lol. she said thats what we used to do. i was like so thats like reducing the seriousness of our relationship, what else changes, are we still exclusive? anyway, i drove back to my parents' tonight (they live like 1.5 hrs away). i gotta go get my stuff tmrw (computer, clothes etc) which is gonna be awkward, but im doing it while she's at work. no contact ftw. i told her we should take some time to think about things and i'd talk to her next week. she knows i still want to stay together but she said "i still love you but i don't know if i can put myself thru this (risk of feeling neglected) again." i said the formative period of my business is done and there wouldnt be anymore late nights. she still didnt understand that, which kinda pissed me off. i was like, i dont want to be working til im 60. what if we were broke as hell and i wasnt making any money but i was spending all my time w you. is that what you'd want? she's all "at least i wouldnt feel neglected then." Emotional rationalization. She grew up lowerish, bottom-middle class (single military parent, 4 kids) i grew up middle/upper middle class (doesnt mean im spoiled u pricks), i understand what it takes to be able to retire, her mom is like 60 or something and still has to work. ensuring financial stability for myself and future family (protected by prenups of course ) is a high priority for me. still, it's my fault mostly this time. i should have spent more time w her. i love spending time w her. its not like i didnt *want* to, i was just doing what i thought was best for us in the *long* term. whoops. we're still together but not living together anymore (wtf right?). i said id call her next week. i guess if she misses me cool, if not sucks to be me. i think i said that already but i cant see up that far on this tiny screen. right now im feeling ok actually. im sure it just hasnt set in yet, or im clinging to false hope. moving my shit out tmrw is gonna suck. she mentioned there was no other guy longest WAP post evar amirite? no emo posts this time regardless. goodnight OT IBtrolls and criticism. I still think i didnt do much wrong, cuz sometimes id go to spend time w her and she'd be all in a shitty mood so im like alright then, back to work i guess. it's not all my fault, altho i totally understand where she was coming from. wish i had a time machine. oh well. hope i dont get all the fucking emo feelings this time. that shit is the worst.