My GF of 2 1/2 years and I had a talk last night. I guess the talk pretty much. It was practically a break up talk and even as i type this I pretty much know what you guys will say.... i guess I'm just hoping you won't. Anyway what it came down to was 3 major things. She doesn't like the way I always treat her. We're both in the Navy and we both want to go back to our respective states when we're out. Third, if we really think we're even right for each other. I would say our biggest problem is she loves me unconditionally. She wants me around all the time and always wants to hug on me and hold me. Thinking about it I love the thought of this, it's the sweetest thing ever. When put into action, I dunno... I don't really like it. Anyway, I'd like to say I don't intentionally treat her like an asshole. She thinks I ignore her in a group setting which is kinda true. We both work different shifts and don't really talk much and then when we have time to and are together with friends I tend to ignore her. I don't do it on purpose I just... am really social and I guess our interests are fairly different. One thing I do that I know she really hates and even I think of myself as an asshole for this one, is check out other girls. I'll even comment on them in front of/to her. I wish I didn't but I do. I don't have any real desire to cheat or anything but I must admit that I wouldn't mind sleeping with other people. I guess I like the idea of an open relationship and she doesn't (and I don't blame her at all). The whole living situation... we just need to figure out I suppose. We always kind of avoid talking about it because we know each other's stance on it. Neither of us can really ask the other one to move some place where there family is not. As for if we're right for each other... I honestly can't come to a conclusion. We share a lot in common but there's a lot we don't. I know I really enjoy living with her... she doesn't particularly like to do anything and neither do I. We do go out with friends and such but we don't really go out on dates by ourselves. In fact after we're done at work/I'm done at the gym we really just lie around the house and watch movies a lot. It works and I like it. I'm pretty sure she likes it. However we also know we kinda want different things in life. I guess there's little things about each other we wish we'd change too. I know I wish she'd have better dental hygiene and would get active again (which she wants to do but just doesn't have the time). I guess... I don't really know what i want. I know I love her to death and I don't really picture being with anyone else. Yes I sometimes sexually fantasize about other women but I'd never cheat on her, I love her too much. I guess... I dunno. I don't really know what I'm lookng for you guys to tell me. I don't want to leave her because I love her and like our situation but I do sometimes agree I think we'd be better off with different people. I also at the same time think we're great together. I definitely don't want to throw a 2 1/2 year relationship down the toliet though. Cliffs: GF and I pretty much had a X Roads talk last night. Brought up many things such as how I treat her, where we plan to be in 5 years, if we're really right for each other, but neither of us really want to leave each other because we both really love each other. We're not really done talking and I really don't know what to do.