Discussion in 'Lifestyle' started by sipherx, Jul 10, 2005.
Oh i dont think you are weird at all. I wish I had known this much about myself when I was your age and younger. It seems to me that you know what you like - but are afraid to admit to yourself? or afraid of what it might mean? Say it, you like guys - you obviously do. On the other hand, you also like women - nothing wrong with that. If you hang out here for a little bit, im sure you'll meet a few that have the same interests as you.
I wish I had advice per say - the only thing I can say is, go with what you want - dont deny yourself pleasure cause of what others think. If you can manage that, it'll all work out. (easier said than done).
Heres a question, when you pleasure yourself, who do you think about? (or what.. men? women?) Do you ever watch gay porn?
I think it was kinda crappy of you to stop talking to your first friend - but i do understand you were young and scared and weirded out and all that.
Thanks for the story too - very exciting reading...
I didnt want to leave this up here, I have to many real friends that use this forum.
only you can make the choice - if you are happy with your girlfriend, then you shouldnt think too much about cheating on her... on the other hand, it sounds like you kinda wanna get with some guys - or at least, this one guy. Just something you're gonna have to digest on your own and sort out in your own head. And it probably wont be easy.
Yea your right
you've been with your girl for a long time - im sure you share a certain degree of openness with each other - you might want to just bite the bullet and have a "talk" one night and see what she thinks. Either that, or maybe find a way to break up with her - she doesnt have to know everything... but thats kinda lying and what not, you might not be down with that.
I'm kinda in the same boat. Not really sure what I want.
First of all, I don't think you're weird, and I don't think you'll find any people in this forum that will think you're weird.
What you're going through is the same thing that a lot of us have probably gone through as well, so you're not alone. What's uncomfortable for you right now, is trying to figure out who you are, what you like and what you're attracted to.
Given you're age, I would suggest that you try not to worry too much about who you are. Take this time to explore your sexuality. Take a walk on both sides of the fence. By allowing yourself to explore your sexuality will give you a better understanding of who you are. Through self exploration, you'll be able to determine if you're straight, bi or gay. Regardless of who you discover you are, be happy and be proud of who you are and know that there are many others out there, just like you, going through the same thing.
Here is my unprofessional opinion on sexuality: sexuality consists of physical and emotional attraction and lies on a floating scale. On the one end is heterosexuality. On the other end, is homosexuality. In the middle is bisexuality. Where you fall on the scale depends on the level of physical and emotional attraction you feel towards the same and opposite sex. In the middle, where Bisexuality lies, a bisexual person can easily be physically attracted to both sexes, and may even be able to feel an emotional attraction to both sexes. The further out to the extremes depends upon the strength of the attractions you feel towards either sex.
Part of discovering who you are is trying to determine where on the scale you fall. Again, give yourself this time to explore.
NOVAJock thanks for that reply, thanks for all your replies people. I really feel better about myself as a person now.
No problem. Good luck and keep us posted.
and anytime you wanna post a story about your adventures.... i liked your real life experience one.....
Nova pretty much summed it all up (well written btw).
There's nothing wrong with being Bi, if you have these feelings now they probably won't ever go away, and repressing them will only make things worse. Especially if things have been complicated by marriage and kids.
Why didn't you talk to me about this when we were rooming together?
Would have been a good time to talk through stuff...
If you ever want to talk through stuff, I'm around...
I know you love your girlfriend, I have read some other posts in the Vag, etc (don't worry your secret is safe) but remember you are still young. I beleive 110% in exploring your sexuality and being 100% positive about who you are sexually before settling down into something serious. I think if you are having these curiosities you may want to explore them. I know it will be hard to tell your girlfriend because she may just tell others, then guess what? You just came out So, I am not saying dump your girlfriend but take into mind that you are very young. I would just hate to see you living your life looking back, ya know?
BTW, I think it would be kinda hot to have a bi boyfriend Think of all the toys you could get!?!? Infinite possibilities, strap on's, double sided dildos, etc that would be fun...
I'd love to have a bi 18yo boyfriend. We could bang chicks together on occasion, and still have hot boysex. :w00t:
In all seriousness to the OP: Man, you're 18. You don't need a serious relationship in your life IMO. Between moving for college (and after college), meeting new people and becoming an adult, you're going to change a LOT.
My advice, personally, is to back off the relationship with your girlfriend. Date around - guys and girls. Enjoy being young and discovering yourself. You only get to do it once.
i think everyone summed it up well. Explore, enjoy life, but be SAFE and SMART physically, mentally, and emotionally !!!!
Man guys you have really helped me more then anyone else probably could.
If there is anyone in the Daytona Beach,FL area. Lemme know maybe we can talk or something.
OMG, I missed a REALLY great thread. But that's what happens when you're a couple states away from your home base of computers...(I'm currently on the Jersey shore) My first thought when I read your post, sipherx, was to ask you if you ever lived in Maryland. That's similar to how my first and I started, only with a more prolonged ending. All of the advice that you were given was sound. I'd say take it all to heart.
Wolf, I cannot believe that you missed an opportunity to talk through stuff with Sam. You know he would have been the perfect person to bounce ideas/emotions/etc off of.
CoCo, what else is there but honesty? I like chicks enough to bang them, but I much prefer another guy involved. It's hot.
And I love 'em young.
Cool and best of luck as well.
I actually teavel up to Daytona about once every other month. Are you gonna watch the shuttle launch today?
I'm not too good at talking about personal stuff with people.