The wife and I (we're both in our mid-20's) were talking about death earlier today, and she said something that really made me think hard about it and get pretty upset about later. We were talking about how a friend of ours passed away about a year ago, and how strange it is to think that we know people the same age as us who have died already, from both natural and unnatural causes. Thinking about the fact that I am going to have to face death one day has never really bothered me before, I have the natural curiosity about what it is going to be like to die, I've thought about it many times. It doesn't scare me, I've always been OK talking about it before. I've lost friends and relatives, and while it obviously makes me sad, it was nothing more than a passing feeling. However, tonight, the wife said something about how weird it is to think about the two of us growing old together, and more than likely, at some point, one of us is probably going to have to deal with the other one of us declining in health and eventually dying. At first, I just agreed with her and kept on with the conversation, but the more I thought about it over the past few hours, I am suddenly feeling incredibly sad and depressed about that statement. Just knowing that some day, one of us is going to lose the other one of us to death really bothers me. We're young, and we've only been married for a little over a year, and normally it just feels like we have all the time in the world together. But now, I can't shake this feeling that it is a certainty that our time together is limited, and nothing we do can change that. If I am the one who declines in health and dies, it depresses me to think that I will leave her behind, alone and unable to be there for her when she needs me to. If she is the one who dies first, I can't even imagine being able to handle the remainder of my life without her in it. I know some of you are going to read this and think to yourselves that it is pathetic for a 20-something who still hasn't come to terms with the fact that life must come to an end eventually, but I assure you that I have come to terms with this many years ago. I'm just having an incredibly hard time coming to terms with it today, knowing that some day it is going to come between my wife and I. Just throwing this out there to see what you guys think about this, and whether or not I am the only married person who has never really sat down and come to terms with this before.