So I met this awesome girl at work (first mistake, I know) 4 months back and we've dated ever since. Dating her has been real fun, and she has a majority of the characteristics I look for in a woman. She is independant, can have fun doing anything, has a life outside of a relationship, is very attractive, and the sex is good. Unfortunately, she ended a 4-year relationship about 6 months back and when we first started dating he contacted her to hang out and catch up, which she did and I was cool with. Apparently after seeing him a few more times since, she has determined that she still has feelings for him, and although she hasn't acted on them, she confessed the other night that she is so confused and loves hanging out with me but has thoughts about getting back with her ex. While I appreciate her honesty, I can't be the fall back option. Being as attractive as she is (she says no guy has ever left her), I'm sure she is used to having a guy she can count on while she goes after or looks for what she really wants so I'm not sure how she will handle it when I let her know that we shouldn't date anymore. The lesson here for guys in similar situations: I have learned from the past when I wasnt as secure with myself as I am now, I would actually stay with the girl. Its ok to realize when a situation puts you in a bad spot, you should walk away from it. Even if the girl is someone you really like, possibly even love....at the end of the day, you won't be truly happy if you don't respect yourself, and act on the ability to say no to situations that make you less than what you want to be. This even transcends women situations and can be applied to all areas of life. Cliffs: Girl is trying to make me a fall back option but like any self-respecting man I can't let it happen even though I care about her a lot.