Anyone have any tips on how to do this? Or is it just a process that happens over time? When I first had my frenum pierced, they inserted a 12G barbell, and recently I purchased a 10G. And to my surprise, is alot bigger then I expected, it will not go in, and I am not going to force it because I fear the tears *like water from the eyes, not like when you rip something* and pain that will come with it. thanks.