I suppose I should lay out some details for starts. The girl I met is in high school still, and I'm 4 years her senior. I already know that the smartest thing to do would be to walk away and avoid the drama, but I feel the positives to me far outweigh the negatives. So I'm hoping to come away from here with some solid advice on the best path to take in an unwelcoming situation. I met her while in a miserable relationship with a clingy bitch, and we really bonded right away. That was my kick in the ass I needed to end my current relationship and pursue another. We both have the same interests in a lot of things. I've never been able to share a mutual interest in working on cars with a girl, but shes fucking awesome. Comes with me all the time to the junk yard, helped me pull the sway bar off another car and installed it in mine. Her car was dying, so she bought a parts car. When the alternator died, I showed her how to change and test it. She invited me many times to go cruising out down country roads, went for a long walk around her home town. Stupid things, but it's been just so long since I've enjoyed a girls company like that. So things had been going really good. But she's not really dated much before and I had to be pretty up front about everything. I told her I was into her, and she said it was mutual and we left it at that for a while. At this point, the texts and calls start becoming less frequent, but we still spent a few nights together cuddling and watching movies. So I made myself clear again, and again she said the feeling was mutual. I gave it more time. I asked her if we were gonna start dating. She says no. Again, the feelings were mutual. But she claims shes not ready for a relationship. Background on her. She's half seeing some guy twice her age. Not in a relationship, purely physical. I'm thinking, sounds like abuse to me. She's in this because of an ex boyfriend before him who broke her heart. Older guy was there, he offered her comfort when she was down. And since they never started dating, he's the closest thing she's had to the stability of a relationship since her ex broke her heart. I finally start really pushing it, I wanted to date! I lost it at one point and told her she should fuck off, quit wasting my time, grow up and call me in three years. She takes off from work, calls me, cancels all her plans and wants to talk. Same shit as before. Shes not ready for a relationship, shes afraid to lose me as a friend, really enjoys spending time together. So, fuck it, we cuddled, watched tv. I made a move, then several. She didn't push me away so again, I asked her are going to date? Her answer hasn't changed, and that's where I am now. Shes supposed to be coming over tonight. It's probably more trouble than its worth. But I have a hard enough time meeting people as it is. I may as well give the opportunity all that I can.