Background - I'm a month shy of 20, she's a few months shy of 22. Historically I have never really gone out of my way to seek out women...I usually played the "dark and mysterious" card and let them come to me. I also had it beat into my head by my sister as I was growing up that women should be respected and not simply treated as objects, something which stuck with me to a degree. Because of that conditioning, I often have a hard time trying to figure out when to make the move, whatever that move may be. The girl in question is someone with whom I worked for a few months (she quit recently). We had talked a few times at work and had hit it off...we each noted that there was a physical attraction, and a couple of other people at work (who were more her friends than mine at the time) even tried to facilitate our hooking up. I went to lunch with her, we had a good time...later that week she suggested that we hang out again. I mentioned a nice restaurant in town that I had heard good things about and we made plans to head out there sunday night. I ended up having to work late (past 9) so I had to call it off. The next night she invited me out to a local bar with her and a couple of her friends. We had a great time, and around last call we started making plans on where everybody was going. One of her friends had drove to the bar, so they went home, but the other friend had been picked up, so she ended up deciding to come and stay at the house of the girl I'm interested in. She eventually passed out in the spare room in the basement, and homegirl and I headed to her room. Here's where this shit gets confusing. Like I said before, sometimes I have a hard time knowing when to make the move. However, generally, when a girl invites me back to her bedroom after a night of drinking, I'm pretty god damned sure what "the move" is going to be and have no problem making it. For some reason I cannot understand, I didn't try to sleep with her, and she didn't jump on me as typically is the scenario. Maybe I actually like the girl enough to not be worried about having sex with her right away - bottom line is, the only thing that happened that night was us falling asleep in her bed. I was pretty fucking plastered at this point of the night, so all I remember prior to our going to sleep was that we were in the spooning position, and that is not something I'm pretty experienced with doing with someone who I have not just finished having sex with. In any case, later that week I just flat out asked her if inviting me into her bed like that was some sort of test to find out if I was going to try to sleep with her, and she acted like she was slightly offended by the insinuation and asked why I would think something like that. The last time I hung out with her was when we went to a house party on Friday night, and neither of us really made any advances towards each other - we didn't even kiss, which we had done the last couple of times we had seen each other. I'm completely out of my element and have no idea what I'm doing, why I'm doing it, or what the situation now is. I've never had this particular issue with a girl, and I'm a little confused as to what I should do now. Is she just trying to play hard to get? Should I continue to try to facilitate conversation and hang out with her or let her cool her heels for a while and wait for her to contact me first? I feel like a dumbass, and I'm sure I sound like one as well, but for some reason this girl is really fucking with my head and I would like a little advice from an outside viewpoint.