so ive been dating this girl for like 3 months or so, and we have messed around a few times, i think we are ready to have sex, but she doesnt seem want it. she is definatly a virgin, and so i am, i wont bullshit anyone on that. but i think that it would be worthwile for both of us that way. everytime i try to initiate it she doesnt seem to want to go farther. i dont know what to do next. any suggestions?