Last night I went on another one of several first dates since my SO and I made the final split. The guy was nice and he didn't act like a creep or anything but at the end of the night I wanted to shake his hand, not kiss and hug him. This has happened with every guy I've met or been on a date with. I'm having a really hard time adjusting to seeing other guys as romantic interest and not just as friends. I was in love with my ex boyfriend. We didn't end things because I didn't care about him anymore, I was just tired of being taken for granted and arguing over immature, insignificant stuff. One of the main reasons I stayed with him for so long was because I was so comfortable with him and I loved him so much. I didn't like the idea of starting all over with someone new. It's scary to be on a date with someone and not know what their motives/intentions are. At least with him I knew what I was getting into... Like I said I've had several dates over the last 6 weeks or so (about 6 first dates) and before each one I really try to get excited about it and be optimistic. I always come back feeling let down and sad and wind up missing my ex even more than before. I think the best thing to do now may be just to decline any future dates and get off the dating horse for a while until I feel better about all of it. What does the vag think? Should I give myself more time to regroup alone or is practice the only way I'm going to feel comfortable dating again?