- Apr 28, 2007
- 47,255
I'm a huge fan of soft lighting and natural light wherever I can get it.
I strongly prefer lamps to light fixtures.
I'm a huge fan of soft lighting and natural light wherever I can get it.
I strongly prefer lamps to light fixtures.
Yah we have upgraded lighting in our house and I actually hate it
its that white light tone and its obnoxious AF.
Ya'll I had a super vivid snake in the house coming after the kiddo nightmare last night. Soooooo, yeah. I feel you. Knowing I had a 29% chance of having a healthy, full term pregnancy (only after the fact) generated so many PPA related problems for me over the years. I almost feel like it would have been better for my long term mental health not knowing.
Claydus
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Need to see what other parents are doing. I have a 5 year old and 2 year old.
Our weekends go like this:
7:00AM-8:00AM - Both kids wide awake and we let them play in the media/playroom in mornings. Oldest kid knows how to operate smart tv with netflix, primevideo and youtube
8:00AM-9:00AM - Wife and I start waking up and then fix kids breakfast.
9:00AM-11:30AM - Kids play upstairs or downstairs. They get whiney if both wife and i are not with them. So we are together till lunch.
11:30AM-12:30PM - Figure lunch plans. Either make something at home or run out to pickup lunch.
12:30PM-2:00PM - Youngest kid naptime. Oldest kid has quiet time in his room. Sometime wife and I use this as our personal time and chores time. But most of the time she catches up on work or her crafting.
2:00PM-5:30PM - Afternoon play time. Right now in the winter, it's miserable we all stay inside. Come spring time is should be better and kids can help outside with me. Also, spring/summer neighborhood walks also help to get their energy out.
5:30PM-6:30PM - Figure dinner plans. Either make something at home or run out to pickup dinner.
6:30PM-7:30PM - Bath time for kids. Youngest kid get put to bed.
7:30PM-8:30PM - We spend time with our oldest kid by playing with his toys.
8:30PM-9:00PM - Oldest kid get put to bed. We read books and talk about the next day. Most of the time he argue with him about going to bed. Gets up out of bed as soon as we tuck him in. We then proceed to tuck him in 2-3 more times.
9:00PM-11:00PM - Wife and I finally get some alone time. We watch a TV show together or do our own thing. Then we are usually in bed by 11:00PM and asleep by 11:30PM
Anyone else in school or preparing for work related certifications? I am having a difficult time balancing this with our routine at home. I hate putting any of this solely on my wife as we are a team when comes to parenting.
Our weekends go like this:
7:00AM-8:00AM - Both kids wide awake and we let them play in the media/playroom in mornings. Oldest kid knows how to operate smart tv with netflix, primevideo and youtube
8:00AM-9:00AM - Wife and I start waking up and then fix kids breakfast.
9:00AM-11:30AM - Kids play upstairs or downstairs. They get whiney if both wife and i are not with them. So we are together till lunch.
11:30AM-12:30PM - Figure lunch plans. Either make something at home or run out to pickup lunch.
12:30PM-2:00PM - Youngest kid naptime. Oldest kid has quiet time in his room. Sometime wife and I use this as our personal time and chores time. But most of the time she catches up on work or her crafting.
2:00PM-5:30PM - Afternoon play time. Right now in the winter, it's miserable we all stay inside. Come spring time is should be better and kids can help outside with me. Also, spring/summer neighborhood walks also help to get their energy out.
5:30PM-6:30PM - Figure dinner plans. Either make something at home or run out to pickup dinner.
6:30PM-7:30PM - Bath time for kids. Youngest kid get put to bed.
7:30PM-8:30PM - We spend time with our oldest kid by playing with his toys.
8:30PM-9:00PM - Oldest kid get put to bed. We read books and talk about the next day. Most of the time he argue with him about going to bed. Gets up out of bed as soon as we tuck him in. We then proceed to tuck him in 2-3 more times.
9:00PM-11:00PM - Wife and I finally get some alone time. We watch a TV show together or do our own thing. Then we are usually in bed by 11:00PM and asleep by 11:30PM
Anyone else in school or preparing for work related certifications? I am having a difficult time balancing this with our routine at home. I hate putting any of this solely on my wife as we are a team when comes to parenting.
Sounds like a pretty good planned out day, maybe if you guys are behind or just having a busy day you guys can swap some of the duties. As in... she handles lunch and dinner that day and the next day youre the one helping with kids? Instead of you both being there all the time, maybe save the for weekends.
Ron
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- Sep 21, 2003
- 161,026
We only have 1 and he’s 16 months but yes
I can’t establish my routine because I’m almost entirely focused on him
It’s tough but also kinda what I signed up for, i.e. taking a backseat on my ambitions/hobbies/etc.
JacksonWhite
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- Apr 11, 2011
- 14,900
That’s way too structured imo.
we basically hang out and do something in the afternoon. Daughter has an activity Saturday morning.
Oldest goes to ADHD testing tomorrow
Our son goes the day after.
This is ultimately to help. No matter the diagnosis, your kiddos each have their strengths and their weaknesses, and how great it will be for you to be able to identify any needs super early so you can address them, build a plan, and move forward.
- Apr 28, 2007
- 47,255
This is ultimately to help. No matter the diagnosis, your kiddos each have their strengths and their weaknesses, and how great it will be for you to be able to identify any needs super early so you can address them, build a plan, and move forward.
My wife was recently diagnosed. Treatment has vastly improved her life.
I know the oldest has a tough time staying on task.
Our son doesn't act out or scream or fight, but he gets HYPER FOCUSED, needs to be fidgeting or making noise, etc.
He's an incredibly smart kid, great reader, incredible with science and math. Never meets a stranger. But he just like, can't sit still and will have a meltdown if things don't go his way.
In the end, it will be good to know either way.
Claydus
Well-Known Member
The 5 year old is starting back at tee-ball in a month or two. So Saturday mornings should be more fun and not as structured.
Do be careful about medicating as many people I've known who've been prescribed stimulants ended up with bad gum recession and tooth decay. I don't know if there's any way to treat to avoid that along the way, but it's a thing. Stimulants f up your mouth.
AndyP
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- Jun 17, 2004
- 18,408
OMG Ben slept all night. I finally got a full night's sleep.
you bastards that have a kid that sleeps through the night really early are so fucking lucky. he's almost 8 months and it's been an uphill battle of waking up anytime between 1am and 5am.
you bastards that have a kid that sleeps through the night really early are so fucking lucky. he's almost 8 months and it's been an uphill battle of waking up anytime between 1am and 5am.
we're at 9 months now and for the most part sleeping through from 730pm-630/7am. 8 ounces of formula + a tablespoon of oatmeal for her night bottle, her sleep sack doesn't seem to do as much as the previous sleep suit but she stays asleep so im happy. I have it dark as shit in there and we have a loud noise machine going along with purifiers/humidifiers etc, girl will sleep through almost anything
Samcanadian
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So how much sex are other mid-30's couples with kids having these days? Wife and I kind of got into it last night. She stays at home with the kids and I go to work, and I was complaining because we don't have a ton of sex anymore. She was pointing to the fact that it's probably a bit of a lull in our marriage, and that a lot of other people in our situation are probably going through the same thing. Just out of curiosity, I was wondering how frequently you other parents are boning these days. Naturally, the conversation/argument ended in sex so we're all good again but I did express my concern that it's part of a healthy relationship and we should be careful not to let it get away from us.
Samcanadian
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We stayed away from noise machines for our first, but eventually gave in for the second. Holy moly noise machines are the greatest
We originally didn't want to give it to them because we didn't want them to have to rely on itto be able to sleep, but we started using it in the stroller etc while pushing him around to get him to go down easier and it was so darn effective that we just started using it for him all the time.Shouldn’t be shocking at all, I’m a legit snack!
- Apr 28, 2007
- 47,255
Thumpin'Ram
I'll level with you. These bags weren't designed f
This comment right here lets me know that you probably would be more successful with a re-tool your approach. Perhaps instead of complaining about the frequency of sex, try expressing your desire to satisfy her more often. Random drive-by affection helps keep the connection in between.
Also, there is such a thing as being touched-out when you are Mom. I only had one kiddo and while nursing, I felt overwhelmed with all of the attention she needed FROM me. I have to imagine it's doubly difficult with two. Had husband approached me about needing attention FROM me, I would have shut down. We both could do better with just random affection from time to time.
We're mid-40s, but some weeks it's almost every day, some weeks it's once. I also have some other medical stuff going on that takes me out of commission for 9 or 10 days out of every 24.
