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[digital jello]

any tips for flying? we are flying with our 2 month old on Friday...at least its a direct flight from DC to SF

our flight was only 2.5 hours or so, but we had a headband with headphones in it and let her watch cartoons. brought plenty to keep her busy if she wasn't into that, but she was, so it was smooth sailing.

 

[Relax Preppy]

any tips for flying? we are flying with our 2 month old on Friday...at least its a direct flight from DC to SF

carrier or car seat?

if using a carrier they will make you take baby out during takeoff and landing

 

[jeri534]

carrier or car seat?

if using a carrier they will make you take baby out during takeoff and landing

we got him a ticket so he will be in his car seat

 

[GonadWarrior]

any tips for flying? we are flying with our 2 month old on Friday...at least its a direct flight from DC to SF

Paci, bottle or boob is crucial during takeoff and landing

 

[Relax Preppy]

we got him a ticket so he will be in his car seat

if you have dr browns bottles and are pre filling them, dont put the vent parts in, even with the travel disc installed - the pressure will cause the milk to go up the straw and leak EVERYWHERE

 

[Kafka]

So her true nature came out

Bro fr that’s how I feel rn. I’m walking on eggshells. In her defense she is working like 12-13 hours a day albeit “at home” but it’s a lot on her. BUT NO she shouldn’t treat me like this still

Thanks guys I’m gonna tell her what’s up today next time she blows up.

We’re flying to CA at 3 pm weather permitting hopefully travel won’t make things worse

 

[DasVWBabe]

Bro fr that’s how I feel rn. I’m walking on eggshells. In her defense she is working like 12-13 hours a day albeit “at home” but it’s a lot on her. BUT NO she shouldn’t treat me like this still

Thanks guys I’m gonna tell her what’s up today next time she blows up.

We’re flying to CA at 3 pm weather permitting hopefully travel won’t make things worse

But, for real. If this was unexpected, she's probably really ramped up the anxiety to 11. Adding the fear of the unknown aspect of a baby fucks everything up. It's not ok for her to treat you poorly, but you can always respond with something like "I'm here for you as your partner, but your words/reactions don't feel equivalent to the situation."

 

[jaunt]

My wife’s mom did 2 years. Weird as fuck. But she claims that’s the reason she’s never gotten the flu or COVID in her life.

Your posts kinda scare me. Like you’re REALLY into being a dad. Which is great for you but I don’t want my whole identity to be that. Is that bad?

My wife did 14 months, nothing weird about it at all, so much better for the child.

And no its not bad to have an identity outside of dad, i would highly recommend it.

 

[jaunt]

any tips for flying? we are flying with our 2 month old on Friday...at least its a direct flight from DC to SF

Have some toys? I think we flew with my son when he was like three months, they're super easy at that stage since they're basically just a blob.

 

[Remy Bressant]

my three year old telling me I don’t love her bc I sternly told her to listen. kids are master manipulators man

mine do this all the time. any kind of stern language makes my girls upset and start in with the "stop being mean! you dont love me" nonsense.

 

[Remy Bressant]

But, for real. If this was unexpected, she's probably really ramped up the anxiety to 11. Adding the fear of the unknown aspect of a baby fucks everything up. It's not ok for her to treat you poorly, but you can always respond with something like "I'm here for you as your partner, but your words/reactions don't feel equivalent to the situation."

"Put away the crazy" is sufficient. @Kafka you need to draw a line in the sand and nip this behavior in the bud. Put on your man pants and wrangle your hen.
report back and let us know how it goes

 

[Faithless]

Our 1 year old boy still relies on us to cradle him to sleep. He was breastfed up until a month ago. Now that we've weaned him, he sleeps through the night way better. Yet, he is still in the habit of needing us to physically hold him most of the time to actually fall asleep before putting him down.

I've thought about sleep training, but according to Dr. Gabor Maté, giving comfort and showing affection goes a long way, especially in their first few years. The thought of leaving him in the crib to cry through the night for a week+ is painful, not to mention exhausting for us. Has anyone had a similar experience or can offer advice?

You can still be close and loving while sleep training. It only takes 3 nights

 

[Faithless]

any tips for flying? we are flying with our 2 month old on Friday...at least its a direct flight from DC to SF

Be ready with the boob

 

[Faithless]

My wife did 14 months, nothing weird about it at all, so much better for the child.

And no its not bad to have an identity outside of dad, i would highly recommend it.

18 months with my oldest, only 6 months with my youngest.

I would have liked to go longer, but work schedule just really didn't cooperate

 

[Remy Bressant]

"Put away the crazy" is sufficient. @Kafka you need to draw a line in the sand and nip this behavior in the bud. Put on your man pants and wrangle your hen.
report back and let us know how it goes

@Kafka this was 100% a joke, dont do this.
this isnt going to end well for you

 

[beddachedda]

Our 1 year old boy still relies on us to cradle him to sleep. He was breastfed up until a month ago. Now that we've weaned him, he sleeps through the night way better. Yet, he is still in the habit of needing us to physically hold him most of the time to actually fall asleep before putting him down.

I've thought about sleep training, but according to Dr. Gabor Maté, giving comfort and showing affection goes a long way, especially in their first few years. The thought of leaving him in the crib to cry through the night for a week+ is painful, not to mention exhausting for us. Has anyone had a similar experience or can offer advice?

The Sleep Lady's Good Night, Sleep Tight: Gentle Proven Solutions to Help Your Child Sleep Without Leaving Them to Cry it Out https://a.co/d/agHlP9G

 

[jeri534]

I thought the baby must be secured during take-off/landing in the car seat? we thought about BF him during takeoff but was advised he has to be in his seat

 

[Colleen]

@Kafka this was 100% a joke, dont do this.
this isnt going to end well for you

Good job... his wife probably killed him

 

[jaunt]

I thought the baby must be secured during take-off/landing in the car seat? we thought about BF him during takeoff but was advised he has to be in his seat

Lol wut... the first three times we flew we just held him in our laps. We didnt pay for a seat for him until we had to due to age (2 i think.)

 

[fuct.]

Lol wut... the first three times we flew we just held him in our laps. We didnt pay for a seat for him until we had to due to age (2 i think.)

lol this.

 

[Faithless]

Lol wut... the first three times we flew we just held him in our laps. We didnt pay for a seat for him until we had to due to age (2 i think.)

Same

 

[fuct.]

Our 1 year old boy still relies on us to cradle him to sleep. He was breastfed up until a month ago. Now that we've weaned him, he sleeps through the night way better. Yet, he is still in the habit of needing us to physically hold him most of the time to actually fall asleep before putting him down.

I've thought about sleep training, but according to Dr. Gabor Maté, giving comfort and showing affection goes a long way, especially in their first few years. The thought of leaving him in the crib to cry through the night for a week+ is painful, not to mention exhausting for us. Has anyone had a similar experience or can offer advice?

Protip:

throw him in the bed and wait it out. He'll fall asleep.

 

[Colt_Government]

Bro fr that’s how I feel rn. I’m walking on eggshells. In her defense she is working like 12-13 hours a day albeit “at home” but it’s a lot on her. BUT NO she shouldn’t treat me like this still

Thanks guys I’m gonna tell her what’s up today next time she blows up.

We’re flying to CA at 3 pm weather permitting hopefully travel won’t make things worse

Telling her while she’s blowing up is like adding fuel to the fire

 

[Kafka]

Good job... his wife probably killed him

Our flight got cancelled due to all the weather stuff. She’s pissed and it’s not directed at me thankfully for once. The big issue is her brother is flying from Canada into LA to meet us. And the plan was to pick him up from the LAX airport tomorrow. So things are weird now.

 

[Colleen]

Our flight got cancelled due to all the weather stuff. She’s pissed and it’s not directed at me thankfully for once. The big issue is her brother is flying from Canada into LA to meet us. And the plan was to pick him up from the LAX airport tomorrow. So things are weird now.

There is lots of families In the same tough spot. Hope it all works out ...