The all inclusive parenting thread v. Exhaustion/suicidal thoughts/moments of happiness

[Sp33dealer]

Hell is waiting in a school pickup line.

Is this a texas thing? I live next to a middle school and it is absurd how many people just sit in a long stupid line vs just having their kids get out of the car. Seems like every mom is driving their kid to school in their Tahoe/Yukon and choosing to just waste time

That is not how my schools were growing up

 

[Sp33dealer]

went out back to take a work call, had given the terror a small piece of lemon cake and left the rest on the island counter.. turn around and




Time to remove everything from the counters

Oh man pretty soon she’ll be opening and closing doors

 

[Scottwax]

Second is normally early too...


Poor thing though January birthday sucks when your younger cause everyone is either poor, busy or the weather sucks. I started doing a half birthday in the summer 10 years ago and love it lol

Both mine and my brothers kids were all born in January and February.

 

[kwhitelaw]

Oh man pretty soon she’ll be opening and closing doors

I know. She's growing too fast :/

 

[TheBoyWonder]

assuming any of you have interest/did this occasionally before kids; have you been able to take any solo-type buddy trips since having kids?

i've been invited the last 3 winters on ski trips that i've declined. obviously i'm not mad about it - i love hanging out and helping with the kids. frankly, not even sure my wife could handle my 2.5 year old and 8-month old solo for more than 1 night of me being away.

at any rate, is that sort of thing unreasonable? have you been essentially housebound unless going somewhere with the entire family?

 

[Simple]

assuming any of you have interest/did this occasionally before kids; have you been able to take any solo-type buddy trips since having kids?

i've been invited the last 3 winters on ski trips that i've declined. obviously i'm not mad about it - i love hanging out and helping with the kids. frankly, not even sure my wife could handle my 2.5 year old and 8-month old solo for more than 1 night of me being away.

at any rate, is that sort of thing unreasonable? have you been essentially housebound unless going somewhere with the entire family?

I went away on a guys ski trip, think it was 2 nights.

Gotta have that kind of stuff within reason

 

[Ron]

assuming any of you have interest/did this occasionally before kids; have you been able to take any solo-type buddy trips since having kids?

i've been invited the last 3 winters on ski trips that i've declined. obviously i'm not mad about it - i love hanging out and helping with the kids. frankly, not even sure my wife could handle my 2.5 year old and 8-month old solo for more than 1 night of me being away.

at any rate, is that sort of thing unreasonable? have you been essentially housebound unless going somewhere with the entire family?

My buddy has a 6 and 3 year old

His wife is sahm, he travels a ton for work like almost a month out of the year

They also have both sets of grandparents to help and both have siblings with similar aged kids so it’s a little easier when he leaves

Depends on the situation

I think with kids that young unless you have help from in-laws it’s unreasonable to have a lengthy solo trip

 

[BStork]

My buddy has a 6 and 3 year old

His wife is sahm, he travels a ton for work like almost a month out of the year

They also have both sets of grandparents to help and both have siblings with similar aged kids so it’s a little easier when he leaves

Depends on the situation

I think with kids that young unless you have help from in-laws it’s unreasonable to have a lengthy solo trip

Having involved grandparents is so fucking good.

We have my mother in law. She is pretty awesome. I wish my dad and mom were able to be actively involved grandparents. It's heartbreaking, tbh.

 

[BStork]

assuming any of you have interest/did this occasionally before kids; have you been able to take any solo-type buddy trips since having kids?

i've been invited the last 3 winters on ski trips that i've declined. obviously i'm not mad about it - i love hanging out and helping with the kids. frankly, not even sure my wife could handle my 2.5 year old and 8-month old solo for more than 1 night of me being away.

at any rate, is that sort of thing unreasonable? have you been essentially housebound unless going somewhere with the entire family?

Nah. Wife and I have both done overnight trips away from the family, solo.

It's all about communication tbh.

 

[Ron]

Having involved grandparents is so fucking good.

We have my mother in law. She is pretty awesome. I wish my dad and mom were able to be actively involved grandparents. It's heartbreaking, tbh.

My dad has seen my two year old twice his entire life and my mom has never met him or seen pictures

 

[BStork]

My dad has seen my two year old twice his entire life and my mom has never met him or seen pictures

I know that feel.

My kids don't even ask about my dad or mom anymore. We are no contact with my dad

 

[Sirius]

assuming any of you have interest/did this occasionally before kids; have you been able to take any solo-type buddy trips since having kids?

i've been invited the last 3 winters on ski trips that i've declined. obviously i'm not mad about it - i love hanging out and helping with the kids. frankly, not even sure my wife could handle my 2.5 year old and 8-month old solo for more than 1 night of me being away.

at any rate, is that sort of thing unreasonable? have you been essentially housebound unless going somewhere with the entire family?

Having friends

 

[GonadWarrior]

assuming any of you have interest/did this occasionally before kids; have you been able to take any solo-type buddy trips since having kids?

i've been invited the last 3 winters on ski trips that i've declined. obviously i'm not mad about it - i love hanging out and helping with the kids. frankly, not even sure my wife could handle my 2.5 year old and 8-month old solo for more than 1 night of me being away.

at any rate, is that sort of thing unreasonable? have you been essentially housebound unless going somewhere with the entire family?

Wasn't the entire point of staying in that geographical area to be near her family?

 

[beddachedda]

pikler triangle came in (baby 9 mo old)

dude already climbing on it not gracefully, and fully supervised and supported, but goddamn dude is a quick learner for new things

he's not even fully crawling, still doing the army crawl, but HELL YEAH I'LL CLIMB UP THIS DEATH TRAP

 

[BStork]

pikler triangle came in (baby 9 mo old)

dude already climbing on it not gracefully, and fully supervised and supported, but goddamn dude is a quick learner for new things

he's not even fully crawling, still doing the army crawl, but HELL YEAH I'LL CLIMB UP THIS DEATH TRAP

I fully believe kids learn so fast because they're don't know they're not indestructible yet.

 

[Sp33dealer]

assuming any of you have interest/did this occasionally before kids; have you been able to take any solo-type buddy trips since having kids?

i've been invited the last 3 winters on ski trips that i've declined. obviously i'm not mad about it - i love hanging out and helping with the kids. frankly, not even sure my wife could handle my 2.5 year old and 8-month old solo for more than 1 night of me being away.

at any rate, is that sort of thing unreasonable? have you been essentially housebound unless going somewhere with the entire family?

Setup help for her. You can’t decline these trips forever

 

[DasVWBabe]

assuming any of you have interest/did this occasionally before kids; have you been able to take any solo-type buddy trips since having kids?

i've been invited the last 3 winters on ski trips that i've declined. obviously i'm not mad about it - i love hanging out and helping with the kids. frankly, not even sure my wife could handle my 2.5 year old and 8-month old solo for more than 1 night of me being away.

at any rate, is that sort of thing unreasonable? have you been essentially housebound unless going somewhere with the entire family?

Is she going to get time away too? If you have back-up, now is the time to use it.

We haven't really ever traveled just with friends; we were always traveling together. But then my MIL had a stroke so he was leaving every other weekend for a few months and kiddo and I were home alone quite a lot.

I've had to be away for work, but it's gotten way too hard to balance our work schedules and kiddo's school, plus planned vacations with friends.

We're moving this summer to be near our family, and I can't wait! It's been too long without weekly interaction with my parents and I am starting to feel like the time is slipping away for it to be worthwhile time for both of them.

 

[beddachedda]

Is she going to get time away too? If you have back-up, now is the time to use it.

We haven't really ever traveled just with friends; we were always traveling together. But then my MIL had a stroke so he was leaving every other weekend for a few months and kiddo and I were home alone quite a lot.

I've had to be away for work, but it's gotten way too hard to balance our work schedules and kiddo's school, plus planned vacations with friends.

We're moving this summer to be near our family, and I can't wait! It's been too long without weekly interaction with my parents and I am starting to feel like the time is slipping away for it to be worthwhile time for both of them.

REALLY feeling my parents aging and not being able to do the things i thought they would be able to. my dad has some pretty bad eye and back problems and hasn't even been able to hold our kid for most of his life unless he's sitting down

really apparent how quickly this stuff goes

 

[DasVWBabe]

REALLY feeling my parents aging and not being able to do the things i thought they would be able to. my dad has some pretty bad eye and back problems and hasn't even been able to hold our kid for most of his life unless he's sitting down

really apparent how quickly this stuff goes

Awww, bless your heart. I feel it, too. :

My dad fell while snow shoveling last New Years Eve and needed surgery. My Mom's been doing it all (we were there to help thankfully this time) and her cognitive function and health issues are going downhill. I feel like my Dad is a ticking time bomb with an aortic aneurism, esophageal issues due to hiatal hernia, and he's had a-fib attacks since he was 40. I just want to be able to take care of them as they age. I wasn't super close to my grandparents since we lived 10 hours away while I was growing up.

 

[TheBoyWonder]

Is she going to get time away too? If you have back-up, now is the time to use it.

We haven't really ever traveled just with friends; we were always traveling together. But then my MIL had a stroke so he was leaving every other weekend for a few months and kiddo and I were home alone quite a lot.

I've had to be away for work, but it's gotten way too hard to balance our work schedules and kiddo's school, plus planned vacations with friends.

We're moving this summer to be near our family, and I can't wait! It's been too long without weekly interaction with my parents and I am starting to feel like the time is slipping away for it to be worthwhile time for both of them.

her parents watch the kids 9-3 M-F so we both feel bad asking for anything more

 

[Relax Preppy]

pikler triangle came in (baby 9 mo old)

dude already climbing on it not gracefully, and fully supervised and supported, but goddamn dude is a quick learner for new things

he's not even fully crawling, still doing the army crawl, but HELL YEAH I'LL CLIMB UP THIS DEATH TRAP

Link? About to get one for my soon to be 6mo old

 

[Relax Preppy]

Its insane how fast baby goes from barely having a clue about what’s around him to dumping out his toys and spreading them around his room when he can’t even crawl yet. I feel like we skipped a few weeks, things escalated too fast 😭

 

[beddachedda]

Link? About to get one for my soon to be 6mo old

Triangle + ramp set, wooden pickler ramps with triangle for climber - Woodandhearts

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[beddachedda]

Lily and river is the gold standard, but absurdly expensive. This one is great

 

[beddachedda]

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