What is a fetish? I've noticed in months past that the word "fetish" has come up quite a lot and is met sometimes with resistance as some would say that what most of us consider a "fetish" is not really a "fetish" at all. It is, as they would say, a "pop culture shake and bake version" of the actual intended meaning. So i decided to do a little research tonight, before going out with some girlfriends for a naughty night out and after talking to a fellow fetishist, to find out just once and for all what the meaning of the word Fetish actually is. from http://vekquin.com/philosophy/fetish.html : Firstly, against pop-culture's definition of the word, I will say that a fetish is an object, not an act. (The dictionary does recognize that it is always an object, not an act; so that part of it is actually right.) If a fetish object is being used in a certain act, then and only then can an act be called a fetish act; only because the fetish object is being brought into the act. For example, many people who enjoy being spanked say that they have a "fetish" for spanking. Well, that's not accurate; instead, I would call that a strong affinity or a high interest in spanking, or some type of fixation; but not a fetish. However, if a person has a particular affinity for an object such a hairbrush, being used on them during spankings; and the sight of a hairbrush itself arouses certain interests or causes a fantastic reaction; then the hairbrush is the fetish and the spanking with the hairbrush is the fetish act. from Dictionary.com: An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence: made a fetish of punctuality. Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification. An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation. from Curtin Health Science, Dept. of Podiatry: Object Fetishism Inanimate object fetish can be sub divided into form and media fetish. - In the form fetish, it is the object and its shape that are important e.g. high heeled shoes. - In a media fetish it is the material that attracts e.g. hard materials like leather and soft materials such as fur. Animate object fetish involves parts of the body i.e. feet, legs and buttocks, ankles , toes etc. Judging from these definitions, I think it is fair to assume that most of us have it right. Saying you have a fetish for lipstick for instance would be accurate. Saying you have a fetish for shoes or feet appears to be accurate. I think a lot of it has to to with object association. For instance, one quote mentioned the hairbrush as an object of fetish only as it was used as an implement of spanking. Its the fetishists association with the hairbrush as a tool of pleasure/pain that is so inviting and gets them excited and so seeing a random hairbrush even in a totally benign situation, devoid of spanking or threat still provides great pleasure and receives reverance from the person involved. However, saying you have a "fetish" for anal sex or a fetish for being tied up would appear to be innacurate. Those would be situations that one enjoys, but if any of that would be a fetish, it would rather be a fetish for rope, which makes the bondage experience enjoyable..or a fetish for the anus or dick which makes the anal sex experience so appealing. Thoughts?