Its hard for me to understand why we have this problem. We are both attractive people and love the other very much. Its not that its bad. When she does want it she enjoys. But those times are very few and far between. She will let me on a regular basis but its just for me, and to be honest I dont really enjoy it, although its slightly better than doing the work myself. I love her very much and I am try to make it not be a deal but its becoming a problem. Ladies, especially married ones like my wife, advice or help would be appreciated.